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My Journey Overcoming Insecurity
Your insecurities will be a struggle for you for the rest of…
Your insecurities will be a struggle for you for the rest of your life. That’s encouraging, isn’t it? It gets better, but it takes time and changes in your own life. I don’t normally tell…
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Looking vs. Lusting
My wife read a discussion about the difference between looking and lusting.…
My wife read a discussion about the difference between looking and lusting. In it, she found this quote: My husband is a very visual/artistic man and says that for him, for the vast majority of…
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The Sting of Betrayal: When Your Husband Looks at Porn
Tears betray your pillow and meet your lips and you wonder how…
Tears betray your pillow and meet your lips and you wonder how betrayal has become such a faithful word in your life. It wasn’t supposed to be like this. You loved him when you said…
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Sex After Porn – Igniting Marital Intimacy in the Wake of Pornography
When a husband brings porn into the marriage, he brings other women…
When a husband brings porn into the marriage, he brings other women to their marriage bed. It’s stained with the images of other people. Who wants to make love on a stained bed? It has…
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Confessing Lust to Your Wife: How Detailed Should You Be?
I’ve always appreciated the helpful insights provided by the counselors at CCEF…
I’ve always appreciated the helpful insights provided by the counselors at CCEF (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation). For over 40 years this group has set the standard for a biblical counseling model. This video is…
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3 Steps to Stop the Habit of Masturbation
Some time ago, we received a comment about quitting masturbation: “I have…
Some time ago, we received a comment about quitting masturbation: “I have eliminated porn from my life. How can I break the habit of masturbation and lust? Every time I get overwhelmed or stressed out,…
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When Boredom Leads to Porn
“My dear Wormwood … I have always found that the trough [boring]…
“My dear Wormwood … I have always found that the trough [boring] periods of the human undulation provide excellent opportunity for all sensual temptations.” —The Screwtape Letters, by C.S. Lewis Scripture goes a block out…
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3 Biblical Strategies for Fighting Lust
“Don’t touch. Don’t taste. Don’t handle”. We hear these three “rules” often when…
“Don’t touch. Don’t taste. Don’t handle”. We hear these three “rules” often when learning how to fight—and overcome—lust. The problem is, mere rule-keeping does not itself get to the heart of lust. This is one of…
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The Power of Habits: A Tool for Christian Counselors
Part of God’s kindness to us is that he wired us to…
Part of God’s kindness to us is that he wired us to be habitual. Habits are very good things. Habits make us better people. Imagine riding a bicycle while looking at your feet to make…
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My Story of Freedom from Pornography
As I’ve slowly and methodically unpacked my addiction over the past 15…
As I’ve slowly and methodically unpacked my addiction over the past 15 months I’ve truly come to learn a lot about myself, much more than I ever really cared about in the past. I’m sure…
