Rebuild Your Marriage
Rebuild Your Marriage 1 minute read

How Porn Cripples a Marriage – Interview with Michael Smalley

Last Updated: February 21, 2014

Covenant Eyes Podcast – Episode 18

[display_podcast]

michael-smalley-2Today on the Covenant Eyes podcast I will be interviewing relationship expert Michael Smalley. Through their books and seminars, Michael and his wife Amy have been teaching couples for years about the principles that make healthy marriages.

Today Michael will talk to couples who are struggling with pornography problems in their marriage. Michael will speak specifically to wives who are are suffering from feelings of inadequacy due to their husband’s porn use. Michael will also address men about how porn inhibits them from emotionally connecting with their wives. Lastly, Michael will talk about how a couple can spiritually grow their marriage.

Listen also to Part 1 (should couples watching pornography together), and Part 3 (single men and pornography).
  1. Investigating the causes of marriage failure? This post is pure quality. It clearly is in the top tier of blogs I have visited on the Net to get you an answer as to having a good marriage. It’s given me lots of ideas on how to get ex girlfriend back from another guy, also. Very much appreciated for providing this resource! I’ll be back on the next installment!

  2. Melissa,

    Thank you for your comment. I am so sorry our podcast (meant to encourage) has discouraged you.

    I’ve gone back to edit this podcast to remove portions that might be insensitive. The problem is not with the speaker but with my poor editing. This is part of a much larger phone conversation and I realize now that taking these sound bites from the whole conversation makes Michael come off insensitive to women in certain places. I can assure you such is not the case. Michael and his wife Amy have helped hundreds of marriages. The fault is in my editing. Please accept my apology.

    If you want, you can go back and listen to the podcast again. If you notice any problems with the new audio, please let me know.

  3. Melissa

    I agree with a lot of what the first commenter said. You are actually laughing about a woman finding porn, for the FIRST time. It shows a lack of understanding on what porn actually does to a woman. As if “Wow, women who get upset and believe it is their fault is ridiculous.” I believe it is a process. I am now dealing with the nth time of finding more porn. I can now handle it better and be more understainding of my husband and be supportive but Firm, but I could never do that for the first time or fir the 2nd or 3rd. You are making it sound like it is our fault if we cannot react right. Shame on you for not adding a note to this to show you diagree with some of what was said or portrayed. I have found much healing going through your website. This was the last thing I was viewing today and now I am more discouraged. Very, very disappointed. I could listen to what he is saying better if he had not given that firt example and laughed. Smalley’s arrogant attitude shows no compassion for the wives. You shouod post this so husbands can use these words against their wives when they are dealing with this. This is what is sounds like to me.

  4. I was very pleased to come across this site. As a wife of a man who struggled with porn, I am looking to help so many of our friends in their marriages as they grapple with this issue. In trying to create a list of resources for our website to help couples, I wanted to add this site. I listened to this particular podcasts. I was so disappointed to hear the laughter when you talked about wives being furious and feeling like their husbands had committed adultery. I fundamentally disagree with your position. However, the laughter was so hurtful even to me who is not going through the difficulties now that I could never encourage a woman who has found out her husband is looking at pornography to listen to this talk. In saying not to judge the husband for his actions, it feels as though you judge the wife for hers – her hurt and anger over being betrayed. I hope in the future you can be more gentle and understanding of women going through this and also to those who interpret the Bible differently.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Related in Rebuild Your Marriage

Editor's Picks

Happy couple at the beach.

Rebuild Your Marriage

Rebuilding Trust in Marriage Through Boundaries

In situations where a marriage has been affected by pornography use, it’s…

5 minute read

Read Post

Editor's Picks

Happy family of six.

Rebuild Your Marriage

From Secret Addiction to Full Transparency

After being married for eight years, I came home unexpectedly one afternoon…

4 minute read

Read Post

Editor's Picks

Phil Robertson discussing The Blind with Covenant Eyes.

Rebuild Your Marriage

4 Reasons You Should Watch “The Blind”

The Covenant Eyes Podcast team recently made the trip DEEP into the…

4 minute read

Read Post

Editor's Picks

A mother with her teenage daughters.

Rebuild Your Marriage

How Porn Shattered My Life: A Betrayed Partner’s Perspective

I was 36, married for 15 years, serving in our Church, attending…

5 minute read

Read Post

Editor's Picks

A picture of Dave and Ashley Willis.

Rebuild Your Marriage

Porn Counterfeits Naked Marriage: With Dave and Ashley Willis

What is “naked marriage” all about? We sat down with popular podcasters…

3 minute read

Read Post

Editor's Picks

Rebuild Your Marriage

4 Words of Wisdom From Al and Lisa Robertson

What does the famous Duck Dynasty Clan have to say to Covenant…

3 minute read

Read Post

Related in Rebuild Your Marriage

Happy couple at the beach.

Rebuild Your Marriage

Rebuilding Trust in Marriage Through Boundaries

In situations where a marriage has been affected by pornography use, it’s…

In situations where a marriage has been affected by pornography use, it’s common for one person to feel responsible for the healing process, while the other doesn’t take enough responsibility. This dynamic can lead to…

5 minute read

0 comments

Happy family of six.

Rebuild Your Marriage

From Secret Addiction to Full Transparency

After being married for eight years, I came home unexpectedly one afternoon…

After being married for eight years, I came home unexpectedly one afternoon to find out that my husband had a pornography addiction. I was defeated, brokenhearted, and overwhelmed. I was a young, stay-at-home mom with…

4 minute read

0 comments

Phil Robertson discussing The Blind with Covenant Eyes.

Rebuild Your Marriage

4 Reasons You Should Watch “The Blind”

The Covenant Eyes Podcast team recently made the trip DEEP into the…

The Covenant Eyes Podcast team recently made the trip DEEP into the heart of Louisiana to meet with Phil and Kay Robertson of Duck Dynasty fame, and to talk about their new movie, The Blind.…

4 minute read

0 comments

A mother with her teenage daughters.

Rebuild Your Marriage

How Porn Shattered My Life: A Betrayed Partner’s Perspective

I was 36, married for 15 years, serving in our Church, attending…

I was 36, married for 15 years, serving in our Church, attending life group and sending our girls to a Christian school to help raise them in the ways of the Lord. I thought pornography…

5 minute read

4 comments

A picture of Dave and Ashley Willis.

Rebuild Your Marriage

Porn Counterfeits Naked Marriage: With Dave and Ashley Willis

What is “naked marriage” all about? We sat down with popular podcasters…

What is “naked marriage” all about? We sat down with popular podcasters Dave and Ashley Willis to find out, and we learned an important message about God’s design for sex and how porn counterfeits it.…

3 minute read

0 comments

Rebuild Your Marriage

4 Words of Wisdom From Al and Lisa Robertson

What does the famous Duck Dynasty Clan have to say to Covenant…

What does the famous Duck Dynasty Clan have to say to Covenant Eyes? We wanted to know, so our podcast team sat down with Al and Lisa Robertson to talk about their shows and other…

3 minute read

0 comments