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4 Steps to Overcoming Porn Addiction

Last Updated: February 19, 2014

by DJ Wade-O

In part 1 of my “Dealing with Porn” series, I wrote about my previous addiction to pornography and how my wife found out. Like many of you, pornography was my little secret that I wouldn’t tell anyone about.  It was my way of releasing stress and tension, and in my mind, it wasn’t hurting anyone.

Overcoming Porn Addiction

How was it a sin if no one got hurt?  That faulty thinking was exposed once my secret was revealed.

How did I beat my addiction, though? In this post, I’d like to share with you four simple steps that I went through to fight and ultimately overcome my addiction to pornography.

1. I began my fight against porn by Getting Serious

The first thing I needed to do was admit what I was doing was wrong. In my heart, I knew I was in sin. But I always found a way to rationalize why I didn’t need to stop looking at porn on the Internet. I wish I could tell you that because I feared the Lord, I was able to arrive at this conclusion. While I do fear the Lord, my driving force for repentance was fueled by the amount of pain I was causing my wife. I knew I couldn’t continue to lead our family and do ministry with this still hanging over me.

I then repented to God and to my wife. I asked the Lord to forgive me and then I went to Belinda and told her I was going to seek help. I asked her to also forgive me and to pray for me as I entered this journey.  It wasn’t an easy conversation, but it was a great first step in repairing the trust that I had broken in our marriage.  It also helped that I told her I was now committed to cutting off any access to pornography (more on this later).

2. I strengthened my fight against porn by Getting Educated

After I became serious about overcoming my addiction to pornography, the next thing I did was educate myself about what was really causing this.  Even though I was serious about beating porn, I wasn’t ready to tell anyone outside of my wife.

I knew I needed help though.  I began searching online for resources to help me.  The first thing I read was an eBook by Mark Driscoll called “Porn Again-Christian.”  It helped me learn some of the things that caused my pornography addiction as well as re-enforce the need for me to become accountable to someone.  And while his resource isn’t big on accountability software, I knew after reading his eBook, that I needed some or else I’d just fall into Satan’s trap over and over again.

Read the rest of this post on WadeORadio.com

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DJ Wade-O is a New Jersey-based DJ, Radio Host/Producer and blogger who loves Jesus. He hosts a weekly podcast, The Wade-O Radio Show, that has been downloaded over a million times.   You can connect with Wade on Facebook or follow him on Twitter.

  1. Kay

    i have have been fighting this addiction for years , since high school i have been addicted . i really want to stop and live a pure life , one which i don’t defy God’s holy temple .

  2. Michael williams

    I need to be save , want a renewed mind and heart, I am addicted to porn , xnxx and nude pics , I want to be rid of these porn , I could have sex and still look at it the next day, looking at women having sex, I want to commit, pray for me to get saved , I want this removed from me , my mind don’t operate the same. Pray for me .

    • Dan Armstrong

      We’re praying for you.

  3. Mercy espino

    I struggle with shameful sin .I have tried to quit and I have failed.iam Christian I feel guilty coz I have betrayed God.I need help and prayers pls!!! Thank you!

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