Articles by Carl Stewart

Carl Stewart is the author of the Amazon Kindle bestseller, The Porn Antidote: God’s Secret Weapon for Crushing Porn’s Grip, and Creating the Life and Marriage You Dream Of. Carl is a counselor and coach in an overflowing private practice where he works with men and marriages devastated by pornography and sexual addiction. He has advanced training and supervision in Emotionally Focused Therapy–the most empirically validated marital therapy which is uniquely suited to restoring marriages affected by sexual betrayal. Carl is a speaker at men’s events, marriage retreats, and parenting seminars. Check out Carl Stewart’s website and blog at www.thepornantidote.com.

3 Essential Responses to Your Spouse’s Betrayal Trauma Triggers

“What are you looking at?!” Lisa shrieks while her eyes bulge and her body pulses with adrenaline. Doug looks up from his phone like a deer caught in the headlights. Panicked, he tries to reassure…

3 Ways Porn Hijacks Your Brain

Scrolling through the images at the bottom of the news site, Jack lingers on one of them. He lingers a little too long. Jack doesn’t know it yet, but a hijacking is in progress. You’ve seen…

3 Ways Porn Shreds Marriages with a “Shame Bomb”

Some movies start with a serene setting, only to have the world collapse around the main character in the first two minutes. A wife discovering porn is a lot like that. Life seems normal, almost…

The Two Best Predictors of Addictive Behavior

Ben’s eyes are bulging and red. He pounds the arm rest with clenched fists and growls, “Why do I keep going back to this stuff?!” Only, he didn’t say “stuff.” If porn were a person he could…

5 Reasons Porn Impacts Kids More Than Adults

Dillon’s body feels like it never has before. The video his best friend’s brother showed him opened up a whole new world for Dillon. As an 8-year-old, Dillon hasn’t been paying attention to girls. He’s…

3 Common Lies When Porn Invades Your Engagement

Helpless, he looks at his fiancé as she sobs uncontrollably as they sit in my office. It is three short months before the wedding and she just found out he has a problem with porn.…

Porn: A Gateway Drug

I work with men every day who struggle with some type of sexual addiction, and they all have one thing in common: porn.  For a lot of guys, this is their main vice. The men…

Your Wife Has Triggers Too

He picks up his phone to check e-mail, respond to a few texts, and see who’s winning the game. It’s happened thousands of times before–but this time is different. He glances up and catches his…

3 Surefire Ways to Rebuild Your Wife’s Trust

“She’ll never trust me again anyway!” Strike one. “I’m tired of being checked-up on like a little kid. I’m a grown man with a security clearance for crying out loud!!” Strike two. “She doesn’t believe…
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