About the author, Ella Hutchinson

Ella is a Licensed Professional Counselor and and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) who is passionate about advocating for partners of sex addicts by helping them to find their voice. She served for three years as a founding board member of the Association for Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). Today, she proudly serves on the board of directors for the organization, Certified Sex Addiction Specialists-International (CSASI). Ella and her husband, Jeff, work together helping couples whose marriages have been invaded by sexual addiction.

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5 thoughts on “Therapeutic Disclosure: How It Can Help Your Marriage Heal

  1. I have been really struggling with this issue ever since discovery 2 1/2 years ago. I wanted a full disclosure followed by a polygraph which was done 4 months later. He failed that one. Due to the unprofessional way it was handled by his therapist I found another therapist who was more experienced with the process. He suggested and I totally agreed, my husband should wait 6 months and go through intensive therapy before going through the process again. Just before our disclosure meeting his therapist had a stroke so it was turned over to another therapist. We still completed the process, which my husband put very little time and effort into the writings, and then the polygraph was administered by a highly respected administrator. He failed that one on all three questions highly deceptive. So, with nowhere to start regarding truthfulness and honesty, I shut down and six months later, after he lied again when I discovered he relapsed and inquired about it, I filed for divorce. Then a few days ago, in a last ditch attempt to save (?) the marriage, he scheduled a polygraph without informing me or his therapist and took another one. Have you ever heard of that? Without a disclosure how effective could that be and what polygrapher would do that?

    • Yeah, Joan, whatever the polygraph shows, I think you know the truth here. It sounds to me like he’s trying to save himself, not so much the marriage, given his history. Your boundaries are yours. You know the truth. Let it set you free. Here, here, here, and here and some article sthat might help. Peace, Kay

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