by Pastor Jay Dennis
Pornography in the pew has been called the new “Bubonic Plague,” destructively influencing every Christian home. To pretend it is not a problem or hope it will go away is hoping against hope. I promise you that someone you know—someone who loves God, loves their spouse, loves their children—is struggling with some level of viewing pornography. Concerning that, you have a powerful voice that needs to be heard now!
As a senior pastor of a local church, I listen when a church member approaches me about something I can do to help every home within the church. When it comes to issues of a sexual nature, many pastors know it is sensitive, awkward, embarrassing and controversial.
Your pastor runs the risk of offending those who feel the pulpit or church is no place for the pastor to discuss sex. But if the pastor knows that he has your encouragement, support, prayers, and backing, that helps to empower him to go where angels fear to tread. Let your pastor hear from you on the subject of addressing pornography viewing among Christian men (and increasingly Christian women). As a church member you can make a difference in your church this week.
10 Steps Church Members Can Take
I want to give you 10 simple steps you can take to help your pastor address the issue of pornography affecting every home in the church he leads:
1. Become familiar with the statistics about Internet pornography. Covenant Eyes has compiled the best statistical information of anyone on the subject. Share this with other church members and friends.
2. Pray for your Pastor and Staff Team that God would open their hearts to address the issue and burden them to speak publicly about it.
3. Commit to praying for the men and boys of your church for God’s hedge of protection around their eyes and minds.
4. Approach your pastor and ask him to address the issue of pornography. Present to him the statistical information and let him know that you would enthusiastically support his addressing this issue. Write him a letter, send an e-mail, or ask him for a meeting with you and other concerned church members.
5. Ask him to embrace the Join 1 Million Men movement calling Christian men in every church and denomination to live a pornography free life. Give him the information.
6. Ask him to involve the women in the church and become a part of the 1 Million Women Praying for 1 Million Christian Men to be pornography free movement.
7. Encourage your pastor that you would be willing to help, organize and promote a Join 1 Million Men challenge.
8. Let your pastor know that you would like to see every man in the church make this commitment to a pornography free life, even those who are not struggling, in order to set the example.
9. Tell your pastor you would be willing to serve on a task force to bring him information about the issue of pornography to the leadership of the church
10. Ask your pastor to encourage the members to install Covenant Eyes Filtering and Accountability software on each of their computers.
Like the Old Testament character Esther, God has placed you in His kingdom for such a time as this! Give your pastor the opportunity to hear your burden for a pornography free church. He will be glad you did.
Photo credit: VinothChandar
Jay Dennis is Senior Pastor of First Baptist Church at the Mall in Lakeland, Florida and creator of Join 1 Million Men. Pastor Jay has been featured in Billy Graham’s Decision Today radio show as well as Christianity Today. He is the author of Dangerous Intersections: Ten Crucial Crossroads Facing the Church in America, Taming Your Private Thoughts, The Jesus Habits: Exercising the Spiritual Disciplines of Jesus, and others.
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