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10 Ways to Help Your Pastor Deal with Pornography In Your Church

Last Updated: July 19, 2021

Jay Dennis
Jay Dennis

Jay Dennis is Senior Pastor of First Baptist Church at the Mall in Lakeland, Florida and creator of Join 1 Million Men. Pastor Jay has been featured in Billy Graham’s Decision Today radio show as well as Christianity Today. He is the author of Dangerous Intersections: Ten Crucial Crossroads Facing the Church in AmericaTaming Your Private ThoughtsThe Jesus Habits: Exercising the Spiritual Disciplines of Jesus, and others.

Pornography in the pew has been called the new “Bubonic Plague,” destructively influencing every Christian home. To pretend it is not a problem or hope it will go away is hoping against hope. I promise you that someone you know—someone who loves God, loves their spouse, loves their children—is struggling with some level of viewing pornography. Concerning that, you have a powerful voice that needs to be heard now!

As a senior pastor of a local church, I listen when a church member approaches me about something I can do to help every home within the church. When it comes to issues of a sexual nature, many pastors know it is sensitive, awkward, embarrassing and controversial.

Your pastor runs the risk of offending those who feel the pulpit or church is no place for the pastor to discuss sex. But if the pastor knows that he has your encouragement, support, prayers, and backing, that helps to empower him to go where angels fear to tread. Let your pastor hear from you on the subject of addressing pornography viewing among Christian men (and increasingly Christian women). As a church member you can make a difference in your church this week.

10 Steps Church Members Can Take

I want to give you 10 simple steps you can take to help your pastor address the issue of pornography affecting every home in the church he leads:

1. Become familiar with the statistics about Internet pornography. Covenant Eyes has compiled the best statistical information of anyone on the subject. Share this with other church members and friends.

2. Pray for your Pastor and Staff Team that God would open their hearts to address the issue and burden them to speak publicly about it.

3. Commit to praying for the men and boys of your church for God’s hedge of protection around their eyes and minds.

4. Approach your pastor and ask him to address the issue of pornography. Present to him the statistical information and let him know that you would enthusiastically support his addressing this issue. Write him a letter, send an e-mail, or ask him for a meeting with you and other concerned church members.

5. Ask him to embrace the Join 1 Million Men movement calling Christian men in every church and denomination to live a pornography free life. Give him the information.

6. Ask him to involve the women in the church and become a part of the 1 Million Women Praying for 1 Million Christian Men to be pornography free movement.

7. Encourage your pastor that you would be willing to help, organize and promote a Join 1 Million Men challenge.

8. Let your pastor know that you would like to see every man in the church make this commitment to a pornography free life, even those who are not struggling, in order to set the example.

9. Tell your pastor you would be willing to serve on a task force to bring him information about the issue of pornography to the leadership of the church

10. Ask your pastor to encourage the members to install Covenant Eyes Filtering and Accountability software on each of their computers.

Like the Old Testament character Esther, God has placed you in His kingdom for such a time as this! Give your pastor the opportunity to hear your burden for a pornography free church. He will be glad you did.

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  • Comments on: 10 Ways to Help Your Pastor Deal with Pornography In Your Church
    1. Eugene

      Hi. I’ve been part of a for men only accountability group for nearly two years and I love the healing that goes on there. Things went well and I began taking Bible classes with my church.But then I met an emerging leader in my church who said there was nothing wrong with pornography and it was no big deal. I disagreed and even wrote an 11 page paper on the subject citing the teachings of Dr. Ted Roberts and many others, but I feel the message fell on deaf ears. I felt crushed and discouraged that an emerging church leader not only thought pornography was ok but said so out loud in the class. I began to have serious doubts about my beliefs and even thought about going back to being an atheist- but I know there is a greater power at work in my Christ centered accountability group becasuse He changed my life – what do you think about all this?

      • Lisa Eldred

        Two things come to mind. The first is meant as encouragement: “For among them are those who enter into households and captivate weak women weighed down with sins, led on by various impulses, always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. Just as Jannes and Jambres opposed Moses, so these men also oppose the truth, men of depraved mind, rejected in regard to the faith. But they will not make further progress; for their folly will be obvious to all, just as Jannes’s and Jambres’s folly was also.” – 2 Timothy 3:6-9. His folly will become clear, and he will not be successful as long as he continues in it.

        The second passage is more practical: “If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.” – Matt. 18:15-17. This is a fairly straightforward model for handling false teaching in your church. It sounds like you’ve confronted him already; this is the point where you confront him lovingly with 2-3 others. If that still doesn’t work, bring the issue before your pastor.

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