Pornography is often classified, along with other sexually oriented businesses, as “adult” entertainment—something for “mature” audiences. If these descriptions merely meant these kinds of entertainment are “not suitable for children” then few would protest. That said, it would be foolish to use this as an argument that pornography is actually suitable for adults. Heroin and methamphetamines are also “not suitable for children,” but this does not mean, ipso facto, that they are healthy for those over the age of 18. Matt Fradd explains… Read Matt’s full interview with former Playboy producer Donny Pauling in his book, The Hardcore Truth.
Last month, I wrote about the importance of “turning toward” the marriage relationship in recovery from pornography addiction. “Turning toward” has, for us, become the foundation for our experience in long-term health and healing, and our experience is this: WE ARE ON THE SAME TEAM Early on, it seemed to me like Andy and porn were on a team. They had spent a lot of time together over the years, and they had become best buds. I felt like I was on the outside, attacking his dear friend, when I said I wanted it gone from our marriage. I think … Continue reading →
There is a critical part to recovery that many people ignore. Perhaps it is a missing piece of your recovery. See if you can find it in this verse … “See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.” Hebrews 3:12-13 Sin is deceitful. It will say anything and do anything to get your attention and draw you in. It will use curiosity and enticement. It … Continue reading →
Some believe that pornography can actually help to liberate women in a society where women are repressed. Porn, it is believed, can help women reclaim sexual power, and porn stars lead the way in creating this cultural trend. Exactly what groups of women out there actually feel or experience empowerment because of pornography? Do the wives of men who are hooked on porn feel empowered? Do the women who grow up in a society filled with men who have porn-sex expectations feel empowered? No, they do not. While some women who get into the industry itself might say they feel … Continue reading →
“Porn is only consumed by thankless people.” Dr. Heath Lambert isn’t coddling readers in his book Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace. While the quote from his book might sound like a tough rebuke, this counselor and professor at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary firmly roots his advice and teachings in the unfathomable grace and mercy of Jesus Christ. Finally Free is an inspirational read and a user-friendly guide to both the person struggling with pornography and the mentor, friend, or pastor who is seeking to give support. Lambert delivers an impassioned description of how to pursue … Continue reading →