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6 thoughts on “8 Common Reasons for a Sexless Marriage

  1. There is another reason. Sexual abuse IN MARRIAGE. Yes it happens, and it happens a lot. It needs to be brought out and addressed.

  2. Thanks Doug.. it’s great seeing you and reading you posts.. I remember when you gave your testimony back in the day. GOD is so FAITHFUL and you are a testament to this .

  3. Relations are complicated – Abuse in them, distrust, stonewalling, when one gets cut out and ill treated things start to break apart slowly – and also if it stops – after a longer time has passed by, the hurt stays with them and the soutions dont always come to get harnessed, like couples therapy, the growing back to deep connections and attractions – as the hurt somehow, just gets disguied bellow the surface of the new you that aproaches.

    Further – when the break is as hard and gruesome as close to a break up, or divorce, in spiritual terms , one just cohabit as friends and pals, that are still apart sharing the same apartment – sex is just a dead fish in the sea. The cravings for long time stay with others – in your longing soul and body – till you realize all is just a faint idea of desperation, and none cares about who you are, and you are nothing worth pursuing in anyway, so – actually you are alone in this world.

    She is by her PC station with friends – and You, are by your PC by your own.
    If lucky – you end up with a Pet !

    I got a Rabbit !

  4. “Work harder” is not always realistic when there are medical issues, longstanding emotional issues where libido is just clinically impossible or if you just don’t find your spouse attractive anymore. You can’t force sex if it is impossible. Therapists that tell someone to work harder at it when it is impossible only makes them feel guilty or feel that they are defective people. You can’t will yourself to have sex when the desire is gone completely.

  5. Work harder – nope. I’ve been many a person over the years – the acceptance criteria changes daily. I found that threat of Divorce may cause a spouse to get interested for a short time again but not much else works – at least for us good guys who already show responsibilities,etc.
    Marriage creates a sense of comfort and security. A spouse suddenly turns off when it comes to sex. Except for desire to conceive – or other reasons so it too often proves to be a manipulation and the other spouse is now trapped. Usually due to cost of divorce, affect on kids and social standing post divorce. The pain is great in a SM. I would tell anyone without kids to considering marriage – go at this very slowly – you haven’t any idea what awaits you,

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