About the author, Dan Wobschall

Dan serves as the Southeast Regional Director for Be Broken Ministries. In fall of 2017, Be Broken will launch a Gateway to Freedom workshop in the Orlando area for men struggling with pornography and other sexual strongholds. Dan received training in biblical counseling through the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors.  He speaks nationally on sexual integrity, discipleship at home and marital growth & strengthening. Dan & his wife Julie have been married for 32 years and live in Orlando, Florida. They have three adult daughters.

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2 thoughts on “Why I’ve Never Placed My Wife as Number One

  1. Dan –
    Excellent article; very practical and biblically based. The command that just as a man cares for his own body, so he should care for his wife led me to think of specifics a man does to care his body in and parallel actions he must do for his wife:
    1. BODY: Eat nourishing foods regularly. WIFE: Give your wife nourishing words of gratitude, affirmation, and praise on a regular, intentional basis. Truly, one’s soul is fed by the words of those closest to it.
    2. BODY: Exercise to maintain physical health by challenging your body to achieve gradually higher goals over time. WIFE: Help maintain her confidence and peace of mind by challenging yourself to be consistent in your actions, and loving in your words.
    3. BODY: Make time for rest & recreation. WIFE: Plan times for just the two of you to talk, laugh, and simply enjoy each other. Your wife desperately needs regular breaks from cooking and child-rearing to enjoy a meal at a restaurant, a weekend at a bed & breakfast, and even an evening walk at the end of her day.
    One caveat: GRACE. Each husband must always realize that unlike Christ, he is not yet perfect and will fall short of a 100% success rate. He mustn’t beat himself up over failures; simply confess them to Christ, ask for strength, and do the next right thing.

    Thank you for your advice and admonitions. I’ll work to practice them. – RWR

  2. Robert,

    I appreciate your thoughts on caring for one another. I agree with the points you make completely. Wise insight my friend. Thank you for sharing.

    Yes, grace is a critical piece in the journey toward purity and God honoring lifestyle. Grace needs to openly flow in both directions.

    Thank you for the encouragement. I give God the credit and praise for the positive impact my articles have on their readers.

    Prayers as you continue the journey, Robert.

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