About the author, Kristen Clark

Kristen Clark is married to her high school sweetheart, Zack, and has a background in Biblical counseling, young women's ministry, teen mentoring, online blogging, and is the co-founder of GirlDefined Ministries. She and her sister, Bethany, are passionate about fighting feminism, embracing gender distinctions, and empowering young women to live out their God defined purpose. You can read her weekly blog posts at girldefined.com or follow her on Facebook at facebook.com/girldefined.

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10 thoughts on “5 Ways Our Culture is Grooming Your Daughter for Porn

  1. Here is the reality no one ever talks about: women use sex and push sex to get what they want from the time they are 14 until they can no longer do it. Go look for yourself at the millions of women doing porn. Professional porn that is. I am not even talking about personal porn that is on everyone’s phones. Heck, a middle school got busted where I live and over 50% of the girls had nude pictures of themselves on their phones. Then there are webcam girls, strippers, hookers, escorts, massage girls, and models. Let’s just face facts — until women are held accountable for their actions nothing will change. But we never hold women accountable do we? It is always the male’s fault. Yet, we never talk about the responsibility of a woman not to tempt. I find all these articles laughable because we never hold both sides accountable and until we do so, it is all just a waste of breath.

    I think fighting feminism is a HUGE first step. I agree with this author. Feminism is destroying family in the womb, in the divorce court, by creating a combative gender situation, and by giving women a completely unrealistic view of life. Men learned long ago to get something you have to give up something. Feminists try to peddle this nonsense that a woman can be a wife, mother, lover, in shape, activist, career woman, empowered …. and not give up something. Well, that is nonsense. There is trade offs for everything.

    • Thanks for sharing. We also think women (and men) making pornography—either professionally or personally—should be held accountable to how they express themselves sexually. We often talk about this on our blog (in case you thought maybe we were neglecting this).

      We talk about the spread of so-called “sex positive” feminism on college campuses and why it should concern us.

      We target the authors of women’s erotica for contributing to a culture of sexual exploitation.

      We interview former porn actresses about their lives in the industry and why they got out.

      We write about how people need to remember making pornography is itself a form of prostitution. The two should not be so sharply distinguished.

      We write about the vital importance of modesty among Christian women.

      We comment on cultural trends, such as the acceptance of porn use among women, young girls using social media as a forum to flaunt their bodies, the growing prevalence of sexting, and the growing number of women posting videos on YouTube to ask “Am I pretty?”

      We also display the stories of women who are setting a new trend—choosing to be accountable instead of indulging in sexual sin (here, here, here, here, and here).

      Hope you find the links helpful!

    • I agree. You can’t just hold one side accountable and not the other. For example. You can keep your kid from porn but oddly I am reading People magazine at the same time I am reading Covenant Eyes and on People there is a picture of Kylie Jenner showing off in a bikini. She has been doing this since she was literally 12. So it doesn’t matter if your kids avoids porn because there will be some girl taking a bikini selfie. No one says — hey ladies, stop being vain!! No, we do the exact opposite and say they are “empowered” like you said above. We are literally reinforcing the behavior in women. It is like you have a sweet tooth. You dont want to go to the candy store to get candy, but will go to a grocery store and think it is okay because they only have one aisle of candy. Women are just too vain. This will never change. The bible is full of tempting women and we have never taught our girls to be biblical women who dont tempt. Girls are always given a pass in society. Always. Take abortion. A guy can get 20 years in prison for a fist fight that cause a simple black eye. A girl aborts a baby by crushing its skull and sucking the limbs off a body and is viewed as a hero even though she is aborting that baby out of convenience. It is all hypocrisy really.

    • i have often felt torn by two different roles .not having a balanced life because my parents were divorced but yet had a religious relationship with god.i had to look elsewhere for guidance but found myself struggling to know how to love myself .im an adult now .the only thing i was confident was my looks and my body now from having children and being married for 20 years my body isnt the same .my husband chose to have an affair on me and it has taken its toll on our whole family including my girls .they have not been picking men that are good enough for them.when i was little i had a older friend show me cartoon pornography and proceed to rape me ,because we were both school age they would not prosecute the boy .i was 9 and he was at least 16.they did not believe me anyway because the boy and me were neighbors and friends.anyway its something you can forgive but never forget.it has messed me up for life but i take it to the cross every time for help and i have stayed faithful to my husband despite wanting to pack my bags and leave.I am a people pleaser and am always scared of what my husband will do,like put me out in the streets .I feel that women need to get as much info as they can from other godly women and definitely the word of god .I have become a victim and for years i have called on god but i have no trust in any earthy man including my husband.i pray for any woman reading this that you find your identity in christ.from this day forward i chose to believe what he says about me no matter what i think or feel.what his word says about me trumps everthing!!!

    • Hey Bethany. Your story just breaks my heart. You’re right: the truth of our Selves, hidden with with Christ in God (Col 3:3) is our true identity, and the only reality that matters. I wonder if you’ve had therapy for the rape you suffered as a child, as well as the abuse you’ve endured in this marriage? A counselor who’s experienced in the treatment of trauma could be really helpful to you as you live out the truth that you know already inside yourself. Peace to you, Kay

  2. I would like to thank you for the article 5 Ways Our Culture is Grooming Your Daughter for Porn, sure it is good idea for protection of family. now I m a teacher in a school and such aptitude have been seen very much in school. and also this aptitude nature or what we call young desire for pornography is in both girls and boys. The suggestion you provided is right. But the culture in bihar, begusarai where see the more openess given young boys and they are captured with such an aptitude. what shall can be done for the boys here.

  3. Absolutely agree!!! Not only that, just walking through department stores!!! All the pretty faces splashed everywhere!! I tell my daughter and son that isn’t real!! It’s photoshop, and airbrushing!! Makeup and artist!!! I tell my daughter that she is smart and beautiful, tough, funny, kind!! I don’t let her watch or read that crap!! We train up our children in the way that they should go!!!! This industry is an insult!!!

  4. While your thought processes about the structure of our society is true. You neglect to bring to light the fact that parents do not oversee what their children are doing. I have a 15 year old girl who cares nothing for boys believes that showing skin unnecessarily makes you a hoyden and has never read a romance in her life! Her t.v viewing leans towards shows that have more to do with criminal profiling then steamy sex scenes. But while we’re on the whole girls being exposed to porn, there’s porn in the bible. Adam and Eve were naked before eve ate the apple that made them realize they were naked and forced them to cover their nudity. There is adultery in the bible, there is killing and prostitutes and dare we say it, references to homosexuality but the bible is a much better book to read. Hmmmm someone needs to brush up on things because if we are going to talk about exposing young girls to things we need to talk about everything that does it not just pick and choose.

    • Zen: But if you actually read the Bible, therd are clearly CONSEQUENCES for those actions, unlike our society that refuses to make people responsible for their actions. Hmm it seems you need to brush up on your Biblical readings and not pick and choose things without seeing their context.

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