About the author, Liz Vogt

Liz Vogt is a Foster Care Case Manager at Buckner Family Services in Lubbock, TX. She is an avid traveler and has spent semesters abroad in Jerusalem, Israel, and Quito, Ecuador. She continues to have a heart for Jesus’ mission in her community today and hopes to move overseas someday to continue seeking justice and restoration for vulnerable and abused populations.

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Your Brain on Porn

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Watching just 5 hours of porn has been proven to significantly change people's sexual beliefs and attitudes. Find out 5 distinct ways that porn warps your brain, as well as 5 biblical ways to renew your mind and find freedom.

38 thoughts on “Girls Hooked on Porn: Battle Notes from a Weathered Fighter

  1. You are a hero. =) You are so brave to speak out about your problem; I’m positive that God is using you to help others (like me) overcome the bonds of sexual addiction. I have a very similar story to yours, being introduced to sexual images at an early age… images that I didn’t understand and didn’t know how to process what I was feeling. As a woman its not okay to talk about the fact that we have sexual addictions, that’s a “man’s problem,” and we are viewed as being extra “odd or dirty somehow,” for facing the very same problems that our male counterparts have. Its so nice to know that I’m not alone. You look empowered in that video; you shined a light on your sin and you’re not letting it control your life anymore. I hope to be like you someday!

    • Hope, thank you so much for your kind comment. I am only brave because God has granted me boldness. Without Him, I would still be held in bondage. I am so grateful that you are able to see His light in me and that in His freedom I am truly free. I am praying that you find many around you who can walk alongside you in your journey. You are surely not alone, there are so many out there that just need to hear a voice that says, “You are not alone”. You might still be struggling, but you can be that light and voice, too!

    • i am struggling badly on this topic. Trying to become the person God has put me on this earth to be. Every so often I fall back into Satan’s path. He keeps pushing those buttons on the back of my head. I don’t have any support or anyone right now I can turn to so your story has me thinking And trying to beat this. Thank you

    • I do admire your boldness and God has done such a wonderful thing and you and I am proud of this you are so beautiful inside and out and we just love you so much and I’ve also can agree that I’ve been introduced to images and videos of pornography e t c but God is an overcomer and he made us that way so I’m so happy for you and keep praying for us that struggle love you sister

    • Hi my name is mia I’m 15 years old I first became addicted and introduced to porn at age nine and i stopped and went back at age 11 and i kept going honestly i feel it would be better for me to tell you then to type all of this because i need physical and mental help it’s a whole lot of information and a story to tell bc I struggle every once in a while with this and its gotten tough I became suicidal and started thinking of ending my life at age 13 when I made a mistake and told my bestfriend about my addiction to porn and how I would play with myself or masturbate at the same time and she decided to screenshot and post it her and my other friend all over social media because we all got into a stupid argument and it made me lose trust for everyone I got hurtful comments from people I didnt even know telling me to clean my pussy and I shouldn’t even be here I should be ashamed telling me I stink or I’m ugly or I am a dirty figure in this world and I became so dark from that moment I stopped loving myself I became even twice as insecure as I was before people will tell me I have a big forehead or my nose is wide I have alot of acne my eyes are small I have nappy hair for a mixed girl I’m ugly or I’m skinny I have no meat I’m two uneven I’m too shy I’m weird or outspoken and some people would think it’s a joke but they didnt realize how much their words would torment me even my mom would tell me how I’m so ungrateful how I’m a spoiled brat and I dont appreciate anything how she wishes I was like bailey who always happy and she wishes I was a pleasent child how I embarres her so much and how I always want me me me and that hurts me bc all I asked her to do was to help me and she says that to me bc I’m broken in her eyes and I started to believe that that made me feel unlovable and unaccepted worthless I developed an eating disorder and I had darkness and hate inside me my mom would mock me or make fun of me and call me manic which is a mental sickness that I have and all I would do is look st myself in the mirror and wish I was not here. I would get jealous when everyone would look at my friends and tell them how pretty they are how gorgeous and all I would see is flaws and they would look right past that how boys would stare at my friends and when it came to me lots of people would just point out the negative and it made me feel like no one thinks I’m pretty they are laughing st me no one would think they would even want to be with me and I became so lonely bc all of my friends are talking or with someone and all I do is daydream I would get comments from so many people on how pretty I am but it made me feel so insecure even hearing that bc of how lonely I am it’s like no matter what nothing no one says can change that even I would lock myself in the bathroom or stay in a stall if I had no makeup on or sit in the back of the church or cover my self and have my or nose covered up afraid anyone would smell me or my breath I’m deeply wounded inside and after reading and watching this i understand why I’m addicted to porn and masturbation and I’m so tired of letting it eat me up and I need serious guidance and help I could really use someone right now please

    • Hi Mia,

      Your story just breaks my heart.

      First of all, let me say that you have been through a LOT. Being exposed to porn as a child is actually a form of abuse. Many children will display symptoms of trauma after exposure to pornography, and re-enacting the trauma is actually one of those trauma symptoms. So while I definitely do think you need help around this issue, I would say that you need help and healing for the trauma you have been through. You do not need to be shamed or made to feel as though you are a bad person. I hope you don’t feel that way when you read the articles here, because you are precious and beloved, absolutely perfectly created in the image of God. You deserve to be treated as that valuable and precious person by others, even though they don’t understand that right now.

      Second, I am wondering if there is a safe adult in your world that you could turn to for support? I would love for you to be in therapy with a good counselor so that you can work through the bullying and the abuse that your friends and family have heaped on you. Would your mom be willing to take you to therapy? If you aren’t able to get support from your mom, a school counselor would be an excellent resource for you.

      Third, I want to tell you that no matter what anybody else says, YOU ARE PRECIOUS AND VALUABLE AND SO LOVED. I want you to start treating yourself in accordance with that truth. Block those abusive people from your social media, and do not entertain their lies for one second. No matter what anybody else says or does, YOU have the choice to treat yourself with dignity and respect. You have the ability to shield yourself from the lies and abuse that are thrown at you: you don’t have to accept those words as reality, because they are NOT.

      I’ll be sending these things to you via private message so that I make sure you hear them!

      Peace to you,
      Kay

  2. Thank you so much for writing this. So many things in this article are exactly how I feel. You are an inspiration to me & your story gives me hope. Like you said, we aren’t cured, we’re set free and it will always be a daily battle to stay pure.

    • And you know, Lynn, we’re always loved with an everlasting love, even in the battle. I think so much about the verse in Romans that says “the kindness of God leads us to repentance.” No matter what it is, no matter what we’ve done, God’s love is always, always there. Blessings, Kay

    • Lynn,
      Yes, it is absolutely a daily battle. As much as I would love to say that I am cured from this, I am not. I fight against it everyday. Some days are easier than others. Continue seeking out God’s grace in each and every day. It’s never about the amount of days we stay away, but the strength and courage that we gain each time that we seek God amidst temptation and refuge to give in. I am so thankful that my story was able to shed some hope, I hope that you can be a hope-bringer as well!

  3. Thank you for being obedient in sharing your testimony with others. You have no idea how far-reaching your words have been and will continue to be. God has made you victorious and I’d love to be as open and vulnerable someday as you are. Thanks again!

  4. It’s really nice to know that it’s not just guys who have this problem. As a guy, I would rather talk to a woman about porn addiction than another dude friend. I feel like my dude friends wouldn’t understand my problem, or they would just say “how is that a problem”? And offer zero help or support.

    • You’re right – a lot of guys may not see porn as a problem, so picking an accountability partner can be very tough! If you’re having a hard time finding one, check out this blog post.

      We generally recommend finding an accountability partner of the same gender for a couple of reasons. First, and I’m going to be a little gender-stereotyping here, men and women often approach life differently. Men are better at speaking and hearing tough love, and women are better at speaking and hearing compassion. Men may be sucked in by porn’s visual effect; women may be sucked in for more emotional reasons.

      Second, male-female accountability may be asking for trouble. Ideally, a strong accountability relationship reaches a certain level of intimacy, and especially if both people are young and unmarried, this can lead to confusion about the status of the relationship, with one person misreading the attention as romantic interest. In fact, when a husband is struggling with porn, we don’t even recommend that the wife is the sole accountability partner; she may read slip-ups as personal insults, and lash out in anger and hurt as opposed to the tough love provided by another guy.

      There may be limited circumstances where male-female accountability relationships work, but think through it prayerfully and carefully before you proceed.

    • Hey TS! Check out SamsonSociety.org & the book Samson & the Pirate Monks. This will help u connect to transparent brotherhood & understand why this is our only hope of freedom. Don’t fall for the temptation to seek female accountability- that’s like a forest fire saying the best way to put it out is to smother it with a tanker of gas. I’m guessing the gal you’re thinking of is attractive? C’mon bro!

  5. Being married for 27 years..and a christian for. Basically my entire life. Apart from rebellious youth I find myself indulge in online affairs. Not yet able to trust any person in my church. But trusting God and with the help of covenant eyes to becoming pure once again.

    • Hey Heidi, Thanks for being open and vulnerable here. I think it’s pretty hard to work yourself out of stuff like this without support. And you’d know best if your church is a safe place or not–lots of churches just aren’t, unfortunately. Some are! But there are other places to turn for support, like the American Association of Christian Counselors, which has lots of different counselors in tons of places. Even when you have the very best of intentions, it’s hard to leave long-term habits behind. Usually there’s a fair number of setbacks on the road to recovery, and it’s just good to have support while you’re picking yourself back up every time. Blessings, Kay

  6. Thank you everyone for your kind words – it is women like you that gave me the motivation to be bold about my story. As women, our stories are so important to this generation as porn becomes more of a problem for both genders. Let your voice be heard and remember that there are so many of us who are just waiting to surround you with love and hope!

  7. The mental images that still pop up after trying to quit porn can be unexpected and invasive. Another way evil keeps it’s foot in the door. I prayed over those people and images. Particularly the women. I prayed for them that they would be set free from the bondage and slavery they are under. They are our sisters and brothers in Christ. I truly believe praying for them, their hurts and pain helped me to see this addiction in a different light. It helped me see the bigger spiritual battle in this new age slavery epidemic. It also helped me to not have as many images popping into my head.

  8. May The Lord bless you, Liz, for your amazing testimony! It’s the first time I see the female side of this awful struggle, and it’s like more “weapons” to keep up!!
    This text reached many people around the world, including me, once I’m brazilian!

    I’d like to share 2 versicles I really enjoy, and that always renew my desire towards purity.
    “For if I build again the things which I destroyed, I make myself a transgressor.
    For I through the law am dead to the law, that I might live unto God.”
    Galatians 2:18, 19

    Warm greetings from Brazil

    • Rodrigo,
      Thank you for your kind reply. What a blessing it is to know that the Internet connects us to so many incredible Christ followers all over this world! May God bless you in your pursuit of holiness and purity!

  9. Liz you are my Hero, you are bold & courageous, Seeing your testimony gives me hope. As a guy I grew up getting use to hearing people say well everyone does it, its just something guys do until marriage, etc. So even though ive kept this secret for about 2 decades I told myself hey its just a casual habit, a few binges here & there but no big deal I can ditch it later. Ill spare you the details of my life but I have several things Ive struggled with through my life & ive been able, with Gods help, to conquer nearly all of them, but this one is the first, its the hardest, infact I didnt consider it a problem until something I did a few years ago made me think wait, I just might have a problem. So the fight has been going on & off ever since. Honestly until this year ive had no real resolve or victory but something about this year is different, its like God is more defined in my life, its kinda hard to explain but I suppose God is giving my strength & helping me becoming battle hardened, but in a positive way.

    • Praise God for bringing you resolve and determination amidst this battle! We can only conquer this battle with His strength and grace. I know exactly what you mean when you say the “fight is on and off”. Sometimes in my own life it’s easiest to give up the fight for a bit, but God is always faithful to draw me near to Him and remind me that I do not fight alone. I will be praying for your journey as you take steps to rid this from your life!

  10. Thank you for your prayers Liz, I will pray for you & others who struggle with this so we all may know we are not alone.

    • Odd? Not sure. What would make it odd? Since it likely involved a filming crew, I’m not sure it was just a lone male sitting across from a lone female having a fireside chat about sex. All the same, I see why some my think it strange. I once interviewed three women at at time on this very subject—something I was hesitant about at first, but it proved to be a very lively and eye-opening conversation for everyone. I think in the right setting, it can help participants to dispel potential myths we may have about the opposite sex.

  11. Thank you. I can’t say that enough. I needed to hear these words, know I’m not alone, know I’m not worthless, know there’s hope. I have felt free before, and I long to feel it again. In these moments it’s hard to believe I’ll ever feel free again. testimonies like yours give me strength.

  12. Liz your story touched my heart. As a guy that has struggled for years and years from a young age like you I find comfort in knowing you found freedom. It absolutely is a daily battle and you’re right about the “power and freedom” in the name of Jesus. Thanks for being strong and sharing your story.

    Your Brother in Christ

  13. I don’t know how to break free of my lust. I’ve been struggling with this long enough that my mind has become twisted. I often struggle with the idea that I’m not doing anything wrong. I feel shame at the idea of telling people, but I don’t feel shame about doing it most of the time. My prayer, since this began, has been for the Lord to allow me to see my actions the way He does, but I still can’t help but question my own understanding of the scripture and God’s will. Thank you so much for sharing this. It is inspiring to hear what God has done in your life. Your story gives me hope that with the help of God and others I can fight this and break free.

  14. Wow! Thank you for sharing that! I really needed to hear that. And to know that I’m not alone and just the fact that a woman struggled with that yet was so bold to admit it and how God has used you to help change other people’s life’s and views is amazing. To God be the glory!! 💯 I’m praying and declaring that I will defeat it too

  15. Hi Liz! Thanks so much for overcoming your fears, being transparent & seeking to share His victory with others. I pray that you & some ladies out there can start a sisterhood of fellowship like SamsonSociety.org & the book Samson & The Pirate Monks is for men. MAY He bless & protect, encourage & embolden you all the days of your life, to fight this sin, develop deeply transparent relationships and be his witness to a broken & hurting world!

  16. Thank you for sharing your story! I was almost in tears listening to your testimony because everything you said is what I’m facing. As a young woman I’ve been struggling with the addiction of porn. At times I feel worthless, unloved, and dirty. Hearing your testimony made me realize that I am not alone and that God does love me. I remember sharing it for the first time with someone really close to me, and come to find out that she used to go through the same struggle! It’s a daily battle, but I know I desperately want to overcome it. Your story gives me hope that I can fight this and break free from it as well! Thank you again. :)

  17. Thank you so much for your transparency and willingness to let God use you. My addiction is not to porn per say, but to masturbation. Whew, that was even a struggle to type that. How ever, God has truly allowed me to open up about it with some of my Christian friends,which in turn realized that they had similar struggles. We are now holding each other accountable. This week has really been a struggle to not give into my flesh, but God has been keeping me. I’m learning to take one day at a time and to celebrate the small victories.

  18. I told my best friend and my girlfriend.
    My best friend struggles with smoking before this it was porn, while he is a Christian he is a bit more of a “sunday boy” and being around him generally isn’t a good influence on me.. whe can sit at the fire till light comes but the chats aren’t really holly
    Luckily i dont live with or near him so over text things are very different amd he claims as long as i hold him accountable he will do the same for me.. is this a bad combo two people struggling with different things.
    Also i want to tell my family, but we are missionaries and i have seen how secrets like this break them when they find out.
    Twice now students who were also my friends got caught with big stuff.. they have moved beyond porn and towards abuse… Every time both my parents get depressed and really sad, further more at this moment there are some things that are causing a hard time.. atleast for them. (I promised my self to stay away from all the drama a long time ago) all of this is making me not be able to tell them.. and more so im afraid that ill be judged by the students and volunteers on the base… It also doesn’t help that everybody to this day makes jokes about thise two students… I have been growing in faith and i have found a fire for the lord almighty… I have a gameplan… Me and my friend also came to the conclusion that we will check of the days we stay clean so we can see our progress… What do you think?

  19. I have been dealing with my Porn addiction since I was very young. It started out from looking at swimsuit magazines that my mom had subscribed to that were mailed to her. I would take them when my mom had thrown them away, and I would hide them under my bed. My mom eventually found them. Though they were not considered porn magazines, it set me on a path that would ultimately lead to me looking up porn on the internet. I did not start looking at porn on a more continuous basis until I was 13. Around that time I was feeling neglected by my parents, unwanted and I did not feel like I fit in at school at all. over the years I used porn to subside my loneliness and as a substitute for love that I did not receive from friends or family. My addiction has become worse ever since I joined the military where porn, masturbating, and indulging in sexual pleasures is encouraged to bolster morale. For me, on the other hand, I know it is all wrong, so I feel very isolated and alone in my endeavers to remain pure. I think very battle worn, and I feel almost hopeless as if I will ever overcome this addiction of mine and I struggle to keep fighting.

    This video has given me hope and has made me feel like I am not alone in this. I am grateful that you have given us your testimony and I pray that You continue in prevailing in your fight against this sin.

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