25 thoughts on “3 Gospel Principles for Battling Porn Addiction

  1. I am just so impressed with this article and the truth therein. The video with the pastors interview is very encouraging. As the wife of a Christian husband the article rings true as what is needed for healing. Praise the Lord as he draws people to himself and sets them free of this sin.

    • I like this article too and I have covenant eyes for myself. My only problem is that my addiction is so severe that I wish the program covered Ubuntu because I can bypass my computer with it. This is my only issue. I’m very desperate and I wish Ubuntu would at least be considered by covenant eyes.

    • Unfortunately, at the moment there are no plans for any Linux system, but we do have a thread in our help forum where you can add your vote. The greater the demand, the more likely we are to prioritize it.

    • I thank you for writing this article. It was concise, to he point and filled with ripe knowledge. I was really intrigued by he understanding that the fantasy of pornography is driven by a loathing of self that only God’s love and mercy can penetrate. As the girlfriend of someone entrenched in an addiction to pornography, how can I facilitate, or help provide a conduit for God’s love to reach my boyfriend in a way that will turn his eyes from the porn to The Word and ultimately to God? Are there any resources for me?

    • Hi Alison,
      I’d say that healthy boundaries are your best bet! It will your boyfriend’s job to do his own work in recovery. If he’s not able to do that work for himself, there’s no way you can do it for him, and it’s good to get that information while you’re still dating, as opposed to several years down the road.
      Peace to you,
      Kay

  2. Thank you for all of what you are doing. Please don’t grow weary of fighting this good fight brother, people like me need you. I am so overwhelmed by how horrible this addiction is and how many people are entrenched in it. This is an epidemic.

  3. I appreciate this software and your article. As someone who long battled this addiction (27 years), I’ve just begun the journey, in the last 3 months, toward a deeper recovery. While I agree with much of your article, I’d like to add that it’s necessary for someone who’s addicted to get viable, clinical therapy to go along with the spiritual accountability and community. For me, I would find temporary relief in confession/accountability in small groups or campus ministries (in college), but nothing of depth that would keep me walking in victory, recovery, and the light. I would always sink back into my old ways, and the shame would cover everything else. I thought to myself, “I’ll be weighed down by this junk until I die. That’s the only way it’ll ever stop.” It wasn’t until I went to a 4-day clinical intensive (with Christian emphasis) that I discovered the link between trauma and my addiction. This was the first time I’d had my eyes open to the causes of why I went back to this cycle over and over. What I learned is that I was re-living the trauma I had endured, through the addiction of pornography/masturbation, in an unfruitful attempt at resolving it. Once I was able to talk through and process the trauma with a clinical therapist, I understood the foundations of WHY. Now, with the help of continued therapy and a 12-step group, along with Covenant Eyes, I’m finding a lasting relief from the compulsion and obsessiveness I used to battle constantly. The unending drive I couldn’t escape is now at bay and I’m having a mental clarity I haven’t known. There isn’t that “push” anymore to look at porn whenever I had the opportunity to be alone. The isolation is breaking away and it’s amazing to live in the light and actually feel alive for once.

    • That sounds so appealing to think of being free. I’ve struggled with these things since I was 12. I don’t know why it keeps such a powerful hold on me, but to have the ability to keep it “at bay” like you say sounds wonderful. I would love to know the foundation of why. I can’t understand the feeling I get when I find myself alone battling tooth and nail to stay strong. It’s emotionally exhausting.

    • To re-echo Sean, if you’ve been struggling with porn since 12, you may want to seek out professional counseling. Yes, “with God all things are possible,” and He could remove the temptation just like He could cure the cancer of everyone who prays for its removal, but in His sovereignty God often chooses to do His work through health professionals.

      If you do choose to pursue counseling, make sure you find someone who treats porn as a problem, not “normal, healthy behavior.”

  4. Thank you for sharing all you do! My husband claims to be a Christian but has turned his back on God b/c he was hurt by people in the church. He’s trying to be free of his addiction in his own power only because he’s afraid to lose me. We have a weekly “reporting in” time which he resents & I hate the fact we have to do it. But I need to know where he’s at. He supposedly has men in his 12 step group he accounts to so while he’s been physically sober for a while, mentally and emotionally it’s been rough …………It’s so hard hanging in here hoping praying he will see the truth. I realize there’s nothing more I can do for him but pray. He found a way through twitter to access porn even with covenant eyes so we are now using another filtering system.

    • Hi Becky, I’m glad you’ve found help and support here for your journey. It sounds like you’re pretty familiar with what’s here, but just in case–here’s a post Luke put together recently that’s got some of our top resources that women find helpful. Praying wisdom and peace for you right now, as you go forward. Blessings, Kay

  5. As of the present I have not been addicted to pornography and in fact really have not be tempted to engage in this self-degrading habit which serves as an aid to the devil. It is from this point of reference that I am asking how is it so easy to be attracted and engaged in it as is the experience of some many people. Is it so difficult to just say no the first time? On the other hand, like habit forming drugs, it is quite easy to understand why once exposed to pornographic literature, it is hard to turn away. I guess that we just have to teach or preach the slogan. Thanks.

    • Karl, I know of some people whose struggle with porn began when they looked it up out of curiosity to learn what the big deal was. Probably the majority, though, stumbled across porn as kids who knew enough to keep their porn use hidden but didn’t know enough to try to stop. This was true when the main source of porn was magazines, and the Internet has only increased the chances of early exposure. One study found that about 90% of boys and 60% of girls have been exposed to porn by age 18. That was a few years ago; I wouldn’t be surprised to learn the numbers are much higher now.

      Really, one big key to preventing addiction is for parents to protect and prepare their kids for pornography, because they will face the temptation. In fact, that’s why we created family accounts; we don’t want cost to be a barrier for families to protect themselves

  6. It really has been hard for me to stop I always feel so guilty to claim that I’m a born again Christian but with this cloud of addiction hanging over my life making me feel unworthy of God’s Grace, mercy and forgiveness but this article has really enlightened me in a sense that there is help out there and that I’m not alone thank you

  7. Hey thanks for the article. Am also having issues with porn and would have loved to have convenant eyes but I can’t afford it. Thanks for da encouragement

    • Hi Christine – please contact one of our customer service reps so that you can explain your situation. The number is: 877.479.1119 within US or 989.720.8000 outside US

  8. I struggle with porn and don’t know what to do. I believe that I am not a genuine believer because I’m addicted to it. I am not looking for justification. Just help. Genuine help. Filters do not work. I need real salvation from this temptation. I’m always thinking about women and wanting to have relations with them. I’m married and I’m a fraud. Please help.

  9. I was considering accountability software for a while even got some other options. But as a computer specialist, there are way to many options for me to work around it. And sin did win for a while.. What finally got me was telling a christian friend i was struggling with sin and needed a watchful eye. The thought of lying to that friend was more powerful then the urge for lust. I couldínt be that kinda hypocrite. That in combination with Gods amazing grace and forgiveness on the cross i am now fighting this battle with the full armor of God. If your struggling with options to go around it (i whont list them) then go find a brother/sister that u truly trust, and tell em the truth. Then u have to lie to that person to keep going on. God will work your consience. Thank you for this article.

    Daniel

    • Daniel: I don’t know how to “get around” the software, nor do I want to know. I really want those I am accountable to to know where I’ve been and what I’ve done on the computer and my devices. I loved your comment about the lying issue. I really feel (and I am glad I do) that lying to one of them would be far worse than anything I could do. I just figure that is God knowing how my mind works and He is exploiting that part of it. I hope that doesn’t sound too weird. Every little (though this is big) thing works for me. Thanks.

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