Porn and Your Husband

Did you catch your husband watching porn? Learn the answers to common questions, tips to productive conversations, steps to setting boundaries, and how to determine the next steps for your marriage.

5 thoughts on “Marriage Damaged by Porn: A Pastor’s Reflections

  1. One has to wonder if the wife is actually interested in sex at all. How many “headaches” does she have? If if she is, is it once a week? Once a month?

    if she is not stepping up to the plate then she should be glad he’s not stepping out on her.

    • Actually, we’ve found that in many cases of porn use, the wife initiates sex and the husband refuses because he prefers the false intimacy of porn.

      We have a post scheduled for next week about building intimacy in marriage. It features the story of a pastor and his wife. The wife points out that her interest in sex has increased dramatically as a result of working on intimacy in other parts of their marriage. So speaking on a general level, if a wife seems uninterested in sex, it may be a symptom that something else is wrong.

  2. I want to say that I am super against porn, but I do not like people telling stories about their spouse looking at it and using the actual name or telling the story in such a way that a lot of people might figure out who the person is. It is very important, if you want someone to be healed, to not spread their bad business, and deal with them in a forward but non smearing way.

    • As a policy, we only post specific details with the couples’ permission, and for imagery we only use stock photography or Creative Commons-licensed images from Flickr. Was there something that flagged you about this particular post?

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