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Toxic Shame Has No Place in Marriage Restoration
In this article I will use female pronouns for the betrayed spouse…
In this article I will use female pronouns for the betrayed spouse and male pronouns for the addict, because that is the focus of my work. Also, parts of this article focus on unique ways…
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4 Reasons Shame Cripples Spouses of Addicts (and How to Overcome It)
“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For…
“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For most healthy outsiders, the logical answer is, “You shouldn’t.” But for most spouses of sex addicts, the feeling of shame clings to us…
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Can Couples Therapy Fix Our Relationship?
I’ll never forget the day I walked out of therapy during early…
I’ll never forget the day I walked out of therapy during early recovery. I left our therapist’s office crying, screaming, and slamming the door, vowing never to return. It’s safe to assume I was not…
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How Respect Shrivels the Power of Porn
If you had tried to convince me 11 years ago that I needed…
If you had tried to convince me 11 years ago that I needed to respect my porn-addicted husband, I would have laughed in your face. Not the “funny ha-ha” kind of laugh. More like a sneer…
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3 Ways Porn Shreds Marriages with a “Shame Bomb”
Some movies start with a serene setting, only to have the world…
Some movies start with a serene setting, only to have the world collapse around the main character in the first two minutes. A wife discovering porn is a lot like that. Life seems normal, almost…
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How Boundaries Helped Heal Our Marriage: Robin and Dave’s Story
Fifteen years ago, Dave called a dating line hoping to have a…
Fifteen years ago, Dave called a dating line hoping to have a sexual conversation with a woman. Even though he confessed it, he was unwilling to admit the seriousness of his offense. I asked him…
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Introducing a Resource for Betrayed Catholic Women
Have you ever felt alone? I mean, really alone? Like there’s no…
Have you ever felt alone? I mean, really alone? Like there’s no one in the world who can help you with the grief or trauma you’re facing? There are thousands of women who experience this…
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5 Common Myths About Setting Boundaries
Here’s an everyday occurance in my office: A woman who is betrayed,…
Here’s an everyday occurance in my office: A woman who is betrayed, wounded, confused and traumatized, seeking to feel safe and stable within her own marriage, tried to set a boundary about porn in her…
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Partner or Porn Police? 6 Encouragements When You Feel Like a Babysitter
Preface: This article focuses on the experience lived by partners of sex…
Preface: This article focuses on the experience lived by partners of sex and pornography addicts. However, if you’re a porn user yourself, I warmly invite you to keep reading! If your partner is able and…
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How a Little “Harmless” Entertainment Can Affect Your Husband
Numerous Christian men I’ve counseled have shared how their Christian wives read…
Numerous Christian men I’ve counseled have shared how their Christian wives read romance novels and watch movies and shows that contain nudity in front of them, even asking them to watch with them. Ironically, these…