Ben’s eyes are bulging and red. He pounds the arm rest with clenched fists and growls, “Why do I keep going back to this stuff?!” Only, he didn’t say “stuff.” If porn were a person he could fight, Ben would rip them apart with his bare hands. Tormented, he looks up and…
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Why Men Lack Courage to Quit Porn
“Our world desperately needs men. Real men. Manly men. Godly men. Holy men. Courageous men. Men who fear no one because they fear their God more. Our culture despises true, biblical manhood. What our young people today who grow up in American society will not learn on their own, from…
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Pastors and Porn – Question #4: "But who can I ask to hold me accountable?"
I’ll never forget one day after I presented a workshop on pornography and sexual addiction, when a youth pastor approached me to tell a most sad story. He explained how he had recently moved across the country to take a position at a church. He was in the office early…
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Don’t Ignore Your Marriage After Sexual Addiction is Discovered
Over the past month I have given a few presentations at conferences for other therapists on the topic of Sex Addiction in marriage. It is such a neglected topic and has gotten me thinking. When pornography addiction or sex addiction is discovered, overwhelmingly couples are encouraged to focus on their…
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Personal Integrity and the Road to Recovery
Integrity could rightly be labeled the “litmus test” of true recovery from pornography. Addicts are prone to define sobriety and recovery on their own terms, and when they do so, that is all that they will ever attain. Perhaps what James said about the tongue could be applied to the…
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Join the Fight: Help Covenant Eyes Save Lives
People come to Covenant Eyes with some terribly heartbreaking stories. We hear countless stories of parents who are devastated to discover their children have accessed pornography. We answer phone calls and e-mails from husbands and wives whose marriages are holding on by a thread after months and years of pornography…
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How Do I Keep My Husband from Looking at Pornography?
My wife runs a ministry at our church called Hearts Restored. It ministers to women who have suffered sexual betrayal. In almost every case the husband struggles with or is addicted to porn. The reaction of their wives is multifaceted. They are angry. They feel betrayed. They feel the need…
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I Created Porn in My Head: David Heughin’s Story
When David Heughins became a born-again Christian at five years old, porn was the last thing on his mind. Raised in a parsonage, he wasn’t supposed to “struggle” with anything. Unfortunately, David’s Christianity was mostly rules and fear. As a child, he was at the bottom of the metaphoric schoolyard…
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Marriage Damaged by Porn: A Pastor’s Reflections
Dr. T. C. Ryan Recently I was asked about a very difficult situation. A woman has been married to a man with a long-term addiction to pornography. The last few years he’s been trying to stop, but by his own efforts alone. When she asks him if he’s struggling he…
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The Ultimate Guide to Identifying (and Redirecting) Your Porn Triggers
The great military strategist Sun Tzu once said, “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” In the battle against porn, knowing your triggers and the triggers around you is critical to victory. Therapists often use the acronym “HALT” to…