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3 Steps to Start Rebuilding Trust and Respect in Your Marriage
Marriages Need Trust and Respect Trust and respect are the concrete and…
Marriages Need Trust and Respect Trust and respect are the concrete and re-bar of a strong marital foundation. If one or the other is missing, the marriage structure is weakened and subject to damage. When…
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How Boundaries Helped Heal Our Marriage: Robin and Dave’s Story, Part 2
My wife Robin and I have been on a 15-year journey of…
My wife Robin and I have been on a 15-year journey of recovery from the damage caused by my addiction to pornography, strip clubs, and masturbation. The shame of my 20-year relationship with pornography during…
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Therapeutic Disclosure: How It Can Help Your Marriage Heal
What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You Imagine you go to the doctor…
What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You Imagine you go to the doctor and learn that you might have cancer. You are sent home and told to come back next week to find out. You don’t…
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When Fantasy Invades Your Marriage
Fantasy seems like an invincible foe. Close your eyes and you can…
Fantasy seems like an invincible foe. Close your eyes and you can picture anything you want, with no one to stop you. Unlimited helpings of dessert, without gaining any weight? Done. Scoring the winning touchdown…
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12 Secret (and not-so-secret) Ways Porn Changed Our Marriage
I will never say I’m grateful for pornography or that my husband,…
I will never say I’m grateful for pornography or that my husband, Craig, brought it into our marriage. However, I am grateful that God used his addiction to refine us and give us the marriage…
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7 Lessons from the Pit of Betrayal
“I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard…
“I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock…
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3 Common Lies When Porn Invades Your Engagement
Helpless, he looks at his fiancé as she sobs uncontrollably as they…
Helpless, he looks at his fiancé as she sobs uncontrollably as they sit in my office. It is three short months before the wedding and she just found out he has a problem with porn.…
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5 Steps to Continue Healing from Betrayal Trauma
Healing from betrayal trauma can be a long journey. If you and…
Healing from betrayal trauma can be a long journey. If you and your husband have made it through the first long and difficult stage of recovery from sexual betrayal trauma–establishing emotional, physical, and sexual safety–you…
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9 Foundational Scriptures to Help Rebuild Your Marriage
The world around us is not just wandering, but running, away from…
The world around us is not just wandering, but running, away from the biblical foundational truths concerning marriage and Who created it. So it would then follow that worldly solutions won’t fix the problem. Problems cannot…
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What You Need to Know About Gaslighting
There I was, in the Food 4 Less parking lot, just sitting…
There I was, in the Food 4 Less parking lot, just sitting in my car. Bawling. I hadn’t known where else to go. I just knew I needed somewhere safe–somewhere my mind and heart could…