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4 Methods That Won’t Help Your Spouse Overcome Porn
It took my husband about ten years to finally be fully free…
It took my husband about ten years to finally be fully free from the grips of porn addiction. As such, I found plenty of methods and tactics that did nothing to help and did much…
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10 Ways to Help Your Spouse Heal after Sexual Betrayal
If you are the one who has wounded your spouse with your…
If you are the one who has wounded your spouse with your sexual acting out and you’ve read beyond the title of this article, I’ll assume you have at least some level of interest in…
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If You Love Her, Tell Her the Truth
Consistently, wives of sex addicts share with me how the lies and…
Consistently, wives of sex addicts share with me how the lies and secrets their husbands keep from them hurt more than the sexual acting out itself. I asked a few of these wives the question,…
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3 Tools Every Marriage Needs to Fight Porn Addiction
The day I stood at the altar, I wish someone would have…
The day I stood at the altar, I wish someone would have told Craig and me that there are three tools every marriage needs to survive—grace, truth, and love. I wish someone would have also…
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3 Essential Responses to Your Spouse’s Betrayal Trauma Triggers
“What are you looking at?!” Lisa shrieks while her eyes bulge and…
“What are you looking at?!” Lisa shrieks while her eyes bulge and her body pulses with adrenaline. Doug looks up from his phone like a deer caught in the headlights. Panicked, he tries to reassure…
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2 Things Your Spouse Doesn’t Need to Know About Your Porn Use
If there are certain things you shouldn’t tell your spouse about your…
If there are certain things you shouldn’t tell your spouse about your porn addiction, it must mean there are important things s/he does needs to know. First and foremost, that you are using pornography. Confessing…
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How Boundaries Saved Our Marriage (Part 3)
In Part One and Part Two of this series on boundaries and…
In Part One and Part Two of this series on boundaries and marriage, we’ve told you about our messy journey to recovery. Although 15 years ago we almost lost our marriage to pornography addiction, this…
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Navigating the Holidays Alone
It seems the Hallmark-like images of holiday celebrations and Christmas romances are…
It seems the Hallmark-like images of holiday celebrations and Christmas romances are everywhere this time of year. For women married to active pornography users, these perfect Christmas card images can hijack our ability to regulate…
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4 Reasons Your Spouse May Keep Turning to Porn
My husband has been free from pornography for over four years, but…
My husband has been free from pornography for over four years, but I’m still discovering things about why he turned to porn all those decades ago. The truth? The reasons aren’t porn-specific. Porn, in many…
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Are You Attracted to Your Wife or Objectifying Her?
I Plan on Objectifying my Wife. You Can’t Stop Me! I recently…
I Plan on Objectifying my Wife. You Can’t Stop Me! I recently wrote a Covenant Eyes article “What Christian Culture Has Gotten Wrong About Sexual Purity.” In it, I wrote: Satan’s definition of sex is…