Articles by Kay Bruner

Kay Bruner has been married to her husband Andy for over 25 years. For 20 of those years, she served with him at Wycliffe Bible Translators, working in the Solomon Islands preparing a New Testament translation into the Arosi language. They have four children and two rescue dogs. They live in the Dallas area where Andy works for SIL International, Wycliffe’s sister organization. Kay is a Licensed Professional Counselor with Rapha Christian Counseling. She is the author of As Soon As I Fell: A Memoir. You can read more of her articles at kaybruner.com.

Porn and Your Boyfriend: Advice for Christian Women

Dear Kay, My boyfriend has been using porn since adolescence. During college he began to seek help by attending Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings and being very involved with accountability and mentoring through that organization. We…

5 Things I Always Say to Porn-Shocked Wives

I answer a lot of letters from women dealing with the discovery of porn in their marriages. Mostly, they are shocked and hurt and alone, wondering where to go from here. While I answer every…

4 Kinds of Porn Users and 2 Ways Spouses Shouldn’t React

Every day on our blog, women post comments telling their stories and asking for help because their husbands use pornography. As I answer the comments, I’m noticing some common themes. I’d like to share what I’m…

Marriage and Porn Addiction: Is Your Husband “On Your Team”?

Last month, I wrote about the importance of “turning toward” the marriage relationship in recovery from pornography addiction. “Turning toward” has, for us, become the foundation for our experience in long-term health and healing, and…

Building Trust Despite His Relapses: Hope for Wives of Porn Addicts

This is a story I hear a lot from women: “My husband just can’t seem to kick the habit. We’ve been in this fight for years now. Whenever he gets caught, he seems to feel…

My Husband Was a Porn Addict: How He Earned Back My Trust

Ten years ago, we were missionaries in the Solomon Islands, arriving at the goal of our ministry: finishing a New Testament translation in the Arosi language. Ten years ago my husband Andy also had a…

When Your Boyfriend Struggles with Porn

After my last post about boundaries, I got a letter from a young woman asking about how to deal with a pornography habit while dating. She gave me permission to share what she writes. My…

Boundaries for Couples Facing Porn Addiction

Henry Cloud and John Townsend have written a marvelous book called Boundaries in Marriage. They define a boundary simply as “a property line” between one person and another. They make this statement: “When two people…

When Porn Shattered My Fairytale World

When I got married, I wanted the sun to shine and the sky to be blue. I wanted the birds to sing and the flowers to bloom and for us to hold hands and just…