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Dan Armstrong is the Corporate Communications Specialist at Covenant Eyes. Prior to joining the team, he led the marketing department of a public policy think tank and also anchored and reported television news for NBC stations in Michigan. Dan and his wife have four children.

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5 thoughts on “The Real Answer to “Do All Men Watch Porn?”

  1. Thanks Dan for being in this battle. Lust outside of porn may be a bigger battle that men face, as it occurs everywhere, not just on a screen. When a man lingers with his eyes or thoughts on a woman, he is taking sexual pleasure in her. It may not be as overt and perverted as viewing porn, but it is nonetheless still sexual impurity; lust, and God equates it to adultery. A man who desires to live in a sexually pure way also needs to confront this battleground.

  2. The question may be better phrased: Do men, in and out if the church, have sexually immoral behavior? i.e. Fantasies, masturbation whether married or not, marital infidelity, amoral activities/relationships (homosexuality), visit massage parlors and/or topless bars, or watch porn. Any sexual activity out of a God ordained marriage between a man and a woman is considered sexual immorality by God as expressed in His Word.

    So, with that being said, what is the church/society at large doing to help men and women trapped in sexual bondage and who have been wounded by some past trauma, neglect or abandonment. Kingdomworks Conquer Series has created a tool that will “help” deliver men and women from sexual bondage.

  3. Its pretty sick the statistics.
    It’s not right this filth is legal.

    We should NOT have to “protect” ourselves and our families from this perverse, twisted, abnormal, twisted, filth. Magazines carelessly tossed out in garbage cans for little children to find, a 5 year old being subjected to explicit, abnormal images…close ups of threesomes, large dildos in rectums, dolled up women who resemble made up teen plastic untealistic bodies, abnormal and traumatizing images viewed by children due to perverted, irresponsible, brainwashed, self centered adults who are careless and see nothing wrong with this twisted stuff.

    it starts then. men think its cool or funny their little 5 year old finds porn.
    The internet – worst, most irresponsible, twisted thing to have pirn all over the place like this.

    SOCIETY IS RUINED! WOMEN are treated as nothing more than things to fuc* and to provide housekeeping and maid service. no respect. PORN NEEDS TO BE BANNED IMMEDIATELY!
    IT IS far more problenatic than anyone can imagine.

  4. I still don’t understand why they feel such a strong desire to do this. My husband and I have only been married 9 months. I would never turn him away. It had been awhile since we had been together and I wanted him as well as to please him. So we he came home from work and got into the shower I waited a min and came in to surprise him. Well we were both surprised. I knew what he was doing and he knew that I knew as well. Of course this makes me feel insecure I am 15 weeks pregnant and I want to be the one pleasing him. He says he’s still attracted to me and that it’s just stupidity. I’ve heard of men being uncomfortable with sleeping with a pregnant woman but this is my husband and I want to believe him. I don’t believe it’s okay to lust over other women. It feels like he cheated on me. Also I heard when a man does it they just need to release pressure. But then why not call me into the bathroom with you. It just doesn’t make sense. I keep coming back to this place in my mind that tells me he’s just not that into right now. Any input would be appreciated. Thank you for reading.

    • Hello, ok, so as a guy, I’m definitely not in tune with all of the emotional complexities of being a caring wife who catches her husband masturbating and carries the insecurities that might come with also being pregnant (sounds like for the first time?). So, with all of that as context and “I’ll do my best,” here we go. It is possible for him to be masturbating simply to masturbate and not while fantasizing about other women. It’s an action that produces a desired result and it’s not always necessary to do anything more than touch and go (not think). This is a big difference between most male brains and most female brains, particularly when it comes to sex and sexual arousal. We (men) can sometimes see it strictly as a behavior. In my married experience, that’s almost never possible with my wife. There’s always a “thinking” or “feeling” that goes along with it.

      I believe that there are also some personal insecurities that you are dealing with by being pregnant. I also hear something very noble and loving in that you truly do want to be the source for his satisfaction and so when you found him looking for satisfaction somewhere else, it hurt in a place that you feel very strongly about.

      All of this to say that I have great hope that through a good, honest dose of talking, that both of you can share and resolve this. For him, he needs to really fess up to the masturbation. Is this something he does often? If so, when? If so, what is he thinking about? He needs to be really, really honest. Because, if he is attaching fantasies to the sexual release, and there’s a baby on the way (meaning life is going to get more complicated with less time for each other, e.g., intimacy might go right out the door for a season!), then, he will find himself on a very slippery path. A path that includes porn and a neurological attachment to arousal from pixels instead of from you. I’ve been there.

      I’ve left you a lot to consider! I hope it’s helpful. I admire your desire to honor your husband and figure this out. I wish you all the best!
      Chris

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