Paul and Judie have been married for 21 years.
They have three teenaged children: boy, boy, and girl.
They attend a Reformed church in town.
Both Paul and Judie are active members in their church.
And…they do not like each other.
Judie is a nag and Paul is insecure.
It doesn’t matter who fired the first shot; the reality of the situation is that they are hardly in love and have been doing marriage-by-rote for a long time.
It is not that they can’t stand each other. If you asked them on a good day, they would tell you that they are in love. That’s what they periodically put on their Facebook status updates.
If you don’t look too deep into their marriage and don’t ask too many probing questions, you would not know they have this low-grade anger and unforgiveness that runs under the surface of their lives.
In many ways they are representative of a million couples who name the name of Christ. They are under-discipled. They entered into the church, plugged into the ministries they wanted to plug into and no hard questions were ever asked.
