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Six Reasons Why Guys Like Porn (and how to break free)

Last Updated: April 17, 2015

Luke Gilkerson

Luke Gilkerson has a BA in Philosophy and Religious Studies and an MA in Religion. He is the author of Coming Clean: Overcoming Lust Through Biblical Accountability and The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality. Luke and his wife Trisha blog at IntoxicatedOnLife.com

I’ve been doing quite a bit of meditating on Proverbs 7 recently. In the text, King Solomon is looking out his window, looking down on the streets of Jerusalem, giving his commentary about a naïve man he sees strolling by the door of a prostitute. She lures him in. He follows. Adultery ensues.

As a recovering porn addict I couldn’t help but see myself in text. No, I’ve never been enticed into a brothel, but discovering the world of Internet porn presented a similar temptation to me. If you haven’t read Proverbs 7 recently, give it a quick read (it won’t take you more than 2 minutes).

Solomon paints a vivid picture of this woman. She is alluring, sensual, and beautiful. As I read it, I find at least six lures this woman uses, six reasons why this man is enticed to follow her home—the same six reasons why many men find it so enticing to look at porn again and again.

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Lure #1: The Forbidden

The first thing Solomon says about this woman is that she is an adulteress (v.5). Other translation say “strange woman,” and this carries the idea that the woman is someone else’s wife or no one’s wife. The idea is that she is forbidden. She is off-limits. She is not his to have. A few chapters later Solomon sums up the motto of the adulteress: “Stolen water is sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant” (Proverbs 9:13).

This is what makes pornography so tempting: it is forbidden. One of the marketing strategies of pornography is to create settings and scenarios that present the lure of the forbidden.

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Lure #2: The Physical Body

In verse 10, Solomon says she is “Dressed as a harlot and cunning of heart.” She looks the part. Solomon also says that she is cunning: she holds down a home, she has a husband. So, the text indicates that she is dressed seductively, but not so much so that she comes off as a common prostitute for hire.

This is, of course, one of the reasons why pornography is attractive. The photos and images are revealing, but not too revealing. Even hardcore pornography is marketed online with 10 or 30 second video clips that beg the viewer to see the whole film. They draw a person in visually, begging them to peak at more.

 

When we read Genesis we see that the apex of God’s physical creation is the human body. So, it isn’t surprising that when people choose to make idols out of the things that God has created, the human body comes at the top of the list every time. Sexuality is in many ways worshiped. When our eyes lock on someone’s physical form, there is a very natural part of us that acknowledges the incredibility beautiful of the human body. Something draws us to see the naked human form. This natural understanding of beauty turns to lust in our sinful selves, and every form of media that uses tight clothing, nudity, and seductive images is propping up the naked human form as something to which we should bow.

Pornography trains the mind to objectify a woman. No matter what our physical preferences are, objectification is an attitude we harbor about women in which we rate them by size, shape and harmony of body parts. The fantasy woman becomes the standard by which we judge the physical beauty of other women.

Quite frankly, what woman can compete with all the makeup, beauty lenses, hair extensions, camera angles, lighting and silicone?

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Lure #3: Passivity

In verse 13 Solomon says, “So she seizes him and kisses him and with a brazen face she says . . .” She presents herself as sexually assertive. She grabs a hold of him and holds him close. She kisses him. She has a strong, shameless, unembarrassed look on her face. She looks right in his eyes and she tells him more with her look and her body language than all her words can say.

Of course there is nothing wrong with a woman exhibiting sexual assertiveness with her husband. But the message that pornography tries to get across is that the woman on the screen is easy, vulnerable, and eager, that she will assertively give herself to the man who’s watching the screen. In other words, there’s no need for him to be assertive in order to have this fantasy experience. He can be passive.

Real relationships that lead to marriage and godly sex require a man to be assertive every step of the way. Real relationships require him to step up to the plate and take action, to serve, to romance, to woo. Pornography’s message is that the man can take it easy; he can avoid the assertiveness of real relationships and reap the benefits of sexual pleasure anyway. If he wants to have the sexual experience, there’s no need to mess with the difficulties of cultivating real intimacy with a woman. He can have the fantasy on his terms and require nothing of himself. This is another reason why pornography is so alluring.

The result is unfortunate: men who watch pornography over and over will train their bodies and minds to respond only to certain fantasy situations. The pursuit of intimacy is replaced by the pursuit of cyber-voyeurism.

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Lure #4: Comfort

She says to him, “I was due to offer peace offerings; today I have paid my vows” (v.14). Peace offerings were animal offerings, presented and slaughtered in the temple, and then a portion of it was given back to the one who brought the sacrifice. It was to be eaten in fellowship with friends and family that day. These peace offerings were the choicest meat.

She continues in verse 16, “I have spread my couch with coverings, with colored linens of Egypt.” Here she speaks of her couch. People in her culture would recline to eat, and she is describing his special seat reserved for him at the table, covered with an expensive, exquisite cloth from Egypt. This is the luxury linen of Solomon’s day. She assures him that this will be a luxurious dining experience. These cunning words say that she’s hospitable. She’s got a table set for him and is ready to entertain. She’s spared no expense. She wants to take care of him. She wants him to be as comfortable as possible.

One of the ways that pornography lures us is by presenting itself as a refuge, just like this woman’s table and home and fine foods were a refuge of comfort for this young man. One of the self-justifications we often use when we gear up to view pornography is that we want to unwind, we want to relax, and we want to reward ourselves after a hard day.

Pornography is often a way to self-medicate. The stress of life, deep feelings of dissatisfaction with life, and discontentment lead people to seek out “little releases.” Pornography presents itself as a refuge, a hideaway, a place to find needed comfort.

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Lure #5: Ego-Fulfillment

The forbidden woman continues, “Therefore I have come out to meet you, to seek your presence earnestly, and I have found you” (v.15). Notice how she strokes his ego here. “I’ve come out to meet YOU, to seek YOUR presence earnestly, and have found YOU.” She probably would have said the same thing to someone else had they come along at that time, but she insists that he’s the one she wants to be with. She makes him feel desired, wanted and attractive. Solomon says in verse 21, “With her many persuasions she entices him; with her FLATTERING lips she seduces him.”

The man that repeatedly returns to pornography is caught in the fantasy experience that the woman on the screen is selling to him: she wants him, she notices him and she makes him feel like a real man. This idea of ego-fulfillment is a form of validation. It’s a lie we learn in our culture early on: that my masculinity is validated based on the “beautiful” women that notice me. It is very common for a man’s fantasy sexual encounter to include a feeling of manly validation.

For me, even though I haven’t sought out pornography in a long while, my fantasies still haunt my imagination. As a young man I often felt unattractive. I sought my validation from girls and received very little of it. I would react by filling my mind with a host of fantasy scenarios where I was the hero, I was the irresistible man whom women loved. When porn entered my life, I experienced a virtual storyboard that fed these fantasies.

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Lure #6: Secrecy

She continues, “For my husband is not at home, he has gone on a long journey; he has taken a bag of money with him, at the full moon he will come home” (v.19-20). The idea is that the man of the house is gone on business and isn’t at all expected to return until the next full moon (the season in which community festivals are celebrated). In other words, she tells this man, “We have no worry of getting caught.”

Often what makes porn so enticing is that it is viewed in secret. In some sense there is the excitement of possibly getting caught. But ultimately pornography thrives on secrecy. Many times it takes getting caught and/or confrontation for those struggling with pornography to take action and get away from porn.

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Fight Fire with Fire

Like many men, I can easily be drawn to porn like a moth to a flame. We can’t change anything about the nature of pornography: it will always hold out these enticing lures. The heat from pornography’s flame will probably always have some draw for me. The only thing a man can do (with any lasting effect) is to catch a glimpse of a larger, more enticing flame.

What is the brighter flame? I believe it is the flame of real love.

I get a glimpse of this flame in my relationship with my wife. In our courtship I found myself experiencing something powerful: I was falling in love. As our love grew and matured, we developed a healthy jealousy for one another’s hearts. We wanted to occupy a special and irreplaceable position in each others’ hearts. There were times in our courtship when pornography held out its lures, and like a moth to a flame, I felt the pull. But as I looked to the flame of her (godly) love, my heart responded in kind: I knew that, with this type of love, I possessed the power and strength to walk away from temptation.

It reminds me of the words of Solomon’s bride, in Song of Solomon: “Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death, jealousy is fierce as the grave. Its

flashes are flashes of fire, the very flame of the Lord” (8:6). She speaks of her lovers-jealousy for him, a fierce longing for him, and a desire to know that she is his only love. This love was like a burning fire in her.

But this marital love is only a spark from a much greater fire: “the very flame of the Lord.” This phrase, “flame of the Lord,” reminds me of the flame that burned the bush in front of Moses. Think of it: a fire that never burns out, that never exhausts itself, a fire that is its own source of fuel. This is a paradoxical thought.

But it reflects the name by which God designates himself to Moses at the bush: I AM WHO I AM. He is the self-existent One, the One who always IS. He is the source of all Being. He is the eternal God. He is the God who cannot be reduced to a simple, explainable name or description.

“The flame of the Lord” hearkens back to the words of Moses: “For the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God” (Deuteronomy 4:24). The Lord’s jealous love is an all-consuming love. His love for His people is an awe-inspiring thought, a love that desires us to have no no other gods before Him, to never make or worship an idol.

His jealous love is called by the prophets and psalmists a “steadfast love”—sometimes translated, His ruthless loyalty to His people.

As we grow to truly know God, I believe our hearts cannot help but be caught up in wonder and awe that some theologians have called “the Beauty of God.” King David wrote,

“One thing have I asked of the Lord, that will I seek after:
that I may dwell in the house of the Lord
all the days of my life,
to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord
and to inquire in his temple.” (Psalm 27:4).

Can you imagine yourself writing these words? Can we honestly say that our one deepest longing is to gaze at the beauty of the Lord.

I believe the only way to overcome the lusts of this world is to have a fixed gaze on a greater Beauty. Until we get close enough to the flame of God to let it warm our heart, the lures of sin will always have their pull. Worldly pleasures can and do put a spell on us. “You and I have need of the strongest spell that can be found to wake us from the evil enchantment of worldliness” (C.S. Lewis).

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  • Comments on: Six Reasons Why Guys Like Porn (and how to break free)
    1. Pricilla on

      Hello. I am 15 and my best friend who is a guy is also 15 opened up to me saying he was a pornaddict. He is just at a really young age and he is really smart and does nothing illegal. I want to help him break his addiction and I feel that I’m the only one who can because I was the only one who he told his secret to. Please help me and advise me. What should I do.

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    2. Jesse on

      This article helped me understand a lot of things about pornography addiction that I didn’t understand before. Very helpful!

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    3. Brian on

      Bro…you hit it on the head…That really helps…Thanks

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    4. Dan on

      Wow… very insightful. Helped me understand my struggle more. Thanks.

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    5. Lindy on

      My boyfreind and I are having difficulty with the fact that he is more into porn at times than me I as a woman feel like I dont fullfill his thoughts or fantasies I always try new things I feel like your hitting the nail on the head from what he tells me why he does this type of thing. I hope that any guy who reads this understands that women are intimidated by other women because picture or video can do something that they cant do for their spouse or lover provide perfect visions of the female body and sexual visions of lust. I feel like we are all marked in some kind of way to make our bodies beautiful but it takes looking at us through their hearts instead of their minds they would see us as lustful, intelligent willing, longing for them women.

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    6. Bryan on

      Alright man, it’s time!! I know that there has to be a way out of this mess. I, like so many have been embraced by this illness for far to long and I am sick and tired of it. It has cost me (just like so many) a wife. It has cost me poor performance at work. It has kept me from pursuing many things. I am tired!! I truly need this to go away. But I do not know how to make this happen. I feel like I am at a point in my life where I have to make a change, right now, but I do not have the means to do it. I have gone to a SA meeting, but that was seriously uncomfortable. I do not think that I can “white knuckle” this. Isn’t there a pill, just kidding. I just have got to get on a health mind set. If there is any advice, I am open. Thank you. B

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      • Luke Gilkerson on

        Bryan, thanks for your comment. I would suggest your read our post for men who are struggling with this and see about the great resources we have advertised. This problem robs us of so much time, money, attention, relationships, and joy. You’re right: white knuckling” is not the answer. Find another man whom you trust, someone you can personally share your burdens with, someone with a degree of wisdom and maturity, and see if he will walk with you on your path of recovery and new discovery. You may also like the podcast from John Freeman about sexual brokenness. Blessings to you, Bryan.

    7. Andre on

      Good day,

      I’ve read the article above and the following “Lures” seems like quite a good dispcription of what is going on inside me: #1 “The Forbidden”, #4 Comfort, #5 Ego-Fulfillment and # 6 Secrecy.

      Good day.

      I am a 28 year old man. I’m in a relationship to the most wonderful person for almost six years now. We have sex regularly but we’re not married, which is more the way things worked out than a decision. This is a huge problem on its own as we both are Christian and try to live our lives accordingly. I want to marry her with all my heart and although there’s so many excuses for not doing so (for example she’s a few years younger than me and I strongly believed that she wasn’t/isn’t ready for marriage. This however is just comfortable excuses because I have to ask myself the question “am I ready for marriage?” and the answer would be yes. That was until tonight. She found some soft-core porn on my iPod and although in sincerely have no idea how it got there (must be through synchronising some pictures on my computer that I was unaware of) this is not the problem. The problem is I sometimes visit soft-core porn sites.

      Four years back she “caught” me for the first time. As a resolution I promised her to never do this again. I erased all porn from my computer and break the “habit” of watching porn. This became more difficult as our relationship progressed. I have a very high sex drive. Something very little in our conservative community understands or could care to deal with let alone live up to. She really tried and this made me feel worse as I realised that most of the things happening in our sex life is pure because I want it. She feels guilty when we’ve had sex and even more so when we’re exploring my more subtle fantasies. This according to her is because we’re not married. It was difficult for me to understand at first as neither of us was virgins when we met. This was difficult for me to make sense of. She has slept with someone else before me, but has no attraction towards me. What am I doing wrong? Why doesn’t she want me? Why doesn’t she need my in that respect? These questions haunted me and the fact that our sex life felt to me like a pure obligation on her part. I felt like she’s having sex with me out of pity. Solely because it’s too difficult to explain to me why she had sex with her ex, but doesn’t want to have sex with me.

      As time goes by I came to believe that the reason why she reacts / acts like this is that she really loves me. She knows we’re going to be together for the rest of our lives and she’s afraid of jeopardising our future marriage or our sex life after we get married. Maybe I started to believe this as it was the easiest for me to accept. It’s just too hard believing that she doesn’t want me or that I can’t live up to what she had with her ex.
      I love her with every part of my being, but through this time I occasionally found myself on porn sites. I promised her to stop it and this made me feel like even more of a loser until I made myself believe that it was better this way. She (as do I) comes from a very conservative background and I started to feel like I’m “breaking” her down as a person by expecting certain things from her. It gave me the refuge of being to her what I think she wants me to be and I at least didn’t feel guilty for asking her things she’s clearly not interested in or what feels wrong to her.

      I’m not on porn sites 24/7. I don’t seek site after site after site as I used to when I was a student or like I did before promising her I would stop. Our sexual problems just sometimes led me to believe that I’m doing nothing wrong. The fact is I am. By not being able to share my sexuality with her like I always dreamt of doing with the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, made it more difficult to me to share anything with her. This cause the effect of lost intimacy which led to even more sexual problems and me doing more of my own thing behind her back.

      I never desired someone else. What I desire most is for her to really and truly “wants” me. I felt empty because (or I believed) she did not. I tried to fill that emptiness by doing what I did as I felt that maybe this will change once we got married and I wouldn’t have the need for this anymore because then she wouldn’t feel guilty anymore and I would feel guilty to share my sexual thoughts and fantasies with her.

      Last night she found some pictures on my iPod. I have no idea where it came from as I don’t build porn collections like I once did anymore. The fact is it came from somewhere and it wouldn’t have if I wasn’t visiting these sites.

      I saw the hurt that it caused and even though I’m not sure I’ll be able to fix this to an extent where our relationship is what we both desire anymore, I want to break free from this guilt I’m carrying around in me. I never want to be responsible for hurting anybody with this ever again. I want to be the man she deserves in her life. I want her to feel save with me, to feel comfortable, to feel as special as she is to me. I want her to respect and look up to me. I want this more than anything. I want this more than sex.

      First of all: How do I fix this? Not for her (as this was what I tried the first time around), but for myself so I can be the one she wants and needs. Could we ever be what we both desire after hurting her like I did? How do I win back her respect and most of all, her trust?

      She’s the woman I want to wake up with every morning for the rest of my life. Please help me with any means…advice, programs referrals, groups, anything that can pave my way back to being the person I know I am inside. To be the person she wants and needs while still being who I am.

      Thank you

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    8. Franck on

      Thank you for writing and sharing, God bless you.

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    9. Franck on

      Andre I think you know what the right answer is for you, get married, and I know the way the trends are today, it make marriage look pretty bad, But honestly brother, the longer you put it off the more excuses you’ll find. There’s nothing in the bible that condemns early marriages(meaning teen marriages_ie Marry was a teenager when she got married). Take your relationship with Jesus a step further, and allow him to seal you and the one you love, forever. Not only here on earth but for all eternity.

      FT

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    10. lady elaine on

      First of all, please allow me to say this is the first time I’ve visited this site or any like it. I am very taken back by some of the posts here, let alone the article.

      I am a 27 yr old female with a husband and son. Neither one of us have stepped outside our relationship of 7 years.
      I truley feel sorry for the men here that battle sexuality. Your fantasies about woman are as natual as women’s fantasies about men! Love and lust for the female body is one of your traits given to you by your creator to create. Quit denying your needs and being so shameful. You don’t have to steo outside your relationship to fufill yourself. Open up and express your love of sexuality to her. If you don’t “click” in the bedroom, it’s because of lack of communication! Be ok with desires, they are what fuels the soul…..

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      • Luke Gilkerson on

        @lady elaine – Thanks for your comment. As you can see from my post, I am advocating sexual expression and communication between married couples. I don’t know if you read the article all the way to the end where I talk about those very things.

    11. Drew on

      thank you so much for this it really put things into perspective for me and helped realize that was the same way in highschool… just longing for female attention and never really got any to speak of. The fantasies it produced were kind of an escape from the harsh reality and made me feel good or at least until i was snapped back to reality. i geuss what really made me look at porn was when a girlfriend cheated on me and it made me feel unwanted and in porn it just made me feel so wanted and like i was worthy of female attention.
      i never realized the bible was so relevant to my persnal life and now i think it could help me heal my wounds and kic this annoying addiction so that i can move on in my life and finally start developing a more pure and uncomplicated life
      thank you so much

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    12. John W on

      I KNOW THIS IS REALLY LONG BUT PLEASE READ IT IN ITS ENTIRETY. Thank you to all those who shared and have given words of encouragement and advice. I am a 25 year old husband and father and I have been addicted to pornography for over half my life. It is at the point now where it is not just interfering with, but destroying my life. I first discovered pornography at the age of 11. Having started taking up interest in girls by this age, while suffering from being very much an introvert with poor self image, it didn’t take long for me to get lured into this fantasy “girlfriend without the baggage” world. I did not have to approach a woman, I didn’t have to think of something to say, I did not have to have any confidence…I could just find photos or video of an attractive woman and she would show me whatever I was looking to see. It has recently gotten to the point that I have skipped meals, skipped going to the gym, neglected household chores and even my family to view pornography. I have even looked at it while my wife was in the same room. I have a much higher sex drive than my wife and the loss of trust and intimacy that evolves from my struggle with pornography just makes her desire to be intimate with me dwindle and feeds into my struggles more. I have begun going to a Christian counseling service and am seeking the help of an accountability buddy–also a Christian. The fortunate circumstance is that I am truly blessed with a very understanding wife who, though she is hurting and struggling with trusting me fully, is very supportive and helpful and not accusatory toward me. The fact that we are both Christians has given us the ultimate foundation to build upon, and I am learning to recognize the temptation to sin before I get as far into as I used to. I am also learning to call upon God to lift me up when I notice I am falling to temptation again. I hope I have offered encouragement to others in a similar situation and I am also looking for any advice and encouragement anyone has to offer, because this is still a major struggle in my life right now. I want to learn to give my wife the gift of exclusivity of sexual intimacy with her alone. Thank you again and God bless.

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    13. Bounder of Adventure on

      You haven’t lived if you haven’t tried anonymous sex. What is really sad is people not trying it due to a fear of some non-existent biblical sky-god. Believe me, if there is anything like an intelligent god in this universe, it will have very little interest in the who’s, why’s and where’s of *your* sex life. In fact, chances are, it is more along the lines of Spinoza’s god…which does not have personal interaction with individual human entities. So go ahead…there isn’t a man in the sky with a grey beard waiting to tear you a new asshole because you had sex with some woman you just met. Don’t lie there on *your* deathbed, having missed out on life’s sordid pleasures owing to a gullible belief in sky fairys. You live once…if it moves, screw it!

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      • neozer on

        That my friend, is why our God is an awesome God. He’s not just a mystical fairy with a long beard, He is our Savior. Our God is so awesome ‘cos of the FACT that He cares for each and every one of us. These pleasures in life as u say, may be “good”. But isn’t that what most sinful things are? They are “good”! I advice u to read through the article again my friend, as u seem to not get the point of the purpose of this article! Don’t get me wrong, I’m not accusing u of anything. I am just voicing my opinion on your comment and I really hope u find the way. May God bless you!
        P.S. our God is an awesome God XD just had to add it in haha

    14. Peter Glynn on

      Tere are a lot of fine folks who get caught up in porn, who chastise themselves and lament their moral weakness. All to often to no end. I increasingly believe porn is a brain problem more than a moral problem. The brain is under attack because people have learned to exploit its architecture to make money (which is the REAL moral issue). Drop the shame, heal your brain. Then there will be no reason for shame.

      http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marnia-robinson/300-vaginas-a-lot-of-dopa_b_730797.html

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      • Luke Gilkerson on

        @Peter – Curious about your comment: You say its a brain problem, not a moral problem. Why can’t it be both?

    15. Michael on

      I have two things I wanted to say: First that I cannot express how much I appreciate this article and the comments that follow. Not everybody is on the same page but that’s the beauty of it, lot’s of people from lots of backgrounds coming together to be human and talk about human things. It’s encouraging to me to see people expressing themselves without agreeing with everything and still maintaining a healthy conversation. It’s a beautiful thing.

      Second is that I saw my dad’s Playboys when I was five years old, and I’ve been drawn and tempted (addicted) to pornography since. I have lied more times than I care to remember trying to hide it (this is not the first time I’ve confessed however). I was going to be a pastor, before God began taking my life in another direction, so every single week I was hiding this sin from everyone. There came a point, though, in my life where I began to fight it, where I became fully aware of the fact that it is a sin and it is harmful not only to myself, but others around me. My faith in God grew so that I could further fight Satan and further win this war. But it never goes away, and if you led your guard down, if you become apathetic to your faith or whatever keeps you from being lustful in any way it’s incredibly easy to slip back into that pattern.

      This happened to my recently… My fiance, Anne, and I have dealt with this struggle before and we’ve had our victories and losses, we’ve shared a lot of pain through this sin. One day I found myself in a place where I wasn’t tempted, I had no desire to look at porn in any way. Whether this was because I was falling so deeply and truly in love with my bride-to-be that I didn’t want it anymore or because the Evil One was just backing off to make me drop my guard doesn’t matter, because eventually I slipped back into this trap again. However, this time, I didn’t share any of it with Anne. She asked me how I was doing and I lied to her, as blatantly and callously as I had lied to everyone else. At first I felt guilty, but the guilt faded, as did my sensitivity towards her. I never stopped loving her, in fact my love for her often grew, but no more than it did before. Yes, I was looking and lying, but my feeling for her were completely real…

      One day she wanted to get on my laptop to look something up and I kept her from it. I realized it scared her and so I told her, but I didn’t tell her everything. I told her that I slipped once and that I was sorry. It wasn’t just the fact that I had slipped that hurt her, it was the lies that went with it. She wouldn’t let me touch her or see her, and I can’t blame her what I had done was terrible. We argued and fought for a few days after and eventually I worked up the courage to see her, but soon I was telling more lies because she was asking me if it was only this once and I just couldn’t bear to hurt her anymore. However, those lies were quickly found out and further crushed her. To make matters worse, I eventually confessed to the full extent of my horrifying deceit and it sent her into depression and pain that I had never seen in another human being let alone my Anne.

      Listen to me when I say that pornography is not a good thing. It may seem like a good things because evil simply cannot seem so good. But if Satan made everything he used to destroy us seem evil, he wouldn’t get anywhere in his hatred for the human race. Men and women, I beg you to learn from my story, because there is no happy ending yet. I don’t know if there will be one at all… I’m fighting now, though, harder than ever before. I have help and I’m fighting for myself, for my fiance, AND for my relationship with my Father (God). I don’t know what is to come and I don’t know if I will fall again. But I do know that I will not stop fighting until I am called Home. Do not give up, ever, because your life will be fuller and happier for it.

      Thank you for allowing me to tell my story and to express myself.

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    16. moses on

      Its indeed educating ,.,i just found some tips to break free from porn..
      Thank you so much

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