Rick Thomas | Covenant Eyes

You just caught your child looking at porn. What do you do?

My friend Luke Gilkerson with Covenant Eyes interviewed me regarding how to respond to a parent who just caught his/her son in porn. Luke’s questions are in italics, with my responses underneath: Start with hope LG: Let’s say a dad came to see you for advice about his teenage son. He tells you his son [...]

Men are tempted to lust – Women are tempted to be lusted after

Men are tempted to give themselves to pornography, while women are tempted to pornography. – Al Mohler Porn is a two-way street. Pornography is not just about a man who is seeking a sexual object to devour with his eyes and heart. It is also about a woman who wants to be “devoured” by the [...]

Wednesday, October 5th, 2011
Written By Rick Thomas
Categories: Accountability Partner Resources, Pastors and Church Leaders, Wives of Porn Addicts

Insecure husband & critical wife – a case study

Paul and Judie have been married for 21 years. They have three teenaged children: boy, boy, and girl. They attend a Reformed church in town. Both Paul and Judie are active members in their church. And…they do not like each other. Judie is a nag and Paul is insecure. It doesn’t matter who fired the [...]

Tuesday, September 20th, 2011
Written By Rick Thomas
Categories: Lust - Fighting the Battle

Backward Porn Addiction: when women draw attention to themselves

I think most of us understand what a porn addiction is. It is typically understood to be when a man seeks to lust after a woman. But what about a Backward Porn Addiction? What is that? Frankly, I had never heard the term before, though I am very familiar with the concept. I was caring for some [...]

Wednesday, August 17th, 2011
Written By Rick Thomas
Categories: Bible Studies, Book Reviews

When People Are Big and God Is Small – Book Review

There are some books written so well that there is hardly a need for another one to be written on the topic. When People are Big and God is Small, by Edward T. Welch, is one such book. Yes, I realize that one book does not exhaust any topic, but Welch has done such a [...]

Thursday, April 7th, 2011
Written By Rick Thomas
Categories: Lust - Fighting the Battle, Pornography Addiction, Wives of Porn Addicts

Dear Diary: Safe sex nearly destroyed my marriage

I don’t remember when I first started looking at porn. I also don’t remember why. It was so long ago. I didn’t particularly enjoy it, meaning I could take it or leave it. My friends were surfing the net and they showed me things that I had never seen before. I think I was 11 [...]

Thursday, February 17th, 2011
Written By Rick Thomas
Categories: Accountability Partner Resources, Lust - Fighting the Battle

Facebook: a new kind of false intimacy

Jeremy posted the wrong age on his Facebook page. Phillip has no picture of his wife in any of his photos. Camille has replaced Oprah with Facebook. Jan has reconnected with two of her old college boyfriends and has not told her husband. Wallace has no idea how much time his wife spends on Facebook. [...]

Wednesday, January 12th, 2011
Written By Rick Thomas
Categories: Bible Studies, Pornography Addiction

Porn: The Drug that Shrinks the Soul

Over 50% of evangelical pastors admitted to viewing porn last year. More than 70% of men from the age of 18 to 34 visit a pornography site each month. Nine out of ten children from the ages of 8 to 16 have viewed porn on the Internet. (Stats from Safe Family) I suppose there is [...]

Thursday, November 4th, 2010
Written By Rick Thomas
Categories: Wives of Porn Addicts

Keys to living with a frog who acted like a prince

When Lois found out about Clark’s porn problem she was devastated. From her perspective there was no hope that their marriage could ever be restored. There were some things she could overlook, but anything related to sexual infidelity was the ultimate slap in the face, the ultimate betrayal, and the marriage was irreparably ruined from [...]

Wednesday, November 3rd, 2010
Written By Rick Thomas
Categories: Wives of Porn Addicts

I Married My Savior, and My Savior Sinned Against Me…

Lois had a rude awakening when she discovered Clark’s porn addiction… Lois came from an abusive and dysfunctional family background. As I listened to her story, I was holding back tears as she told me about the anger and chaos that she lived in as a child. Her past did not get any better when [...]