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Touch: Undervalued and Misused, but Designed by God

When is the last time somebody touched you on purpose? Maybe it was this morning, when you and your spouse kissed each other goodbye before work. Maybe it was two weeks ago when you went to the chiropractor. Maybe you can’t remember the last time someone touched you. Touch is…

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Have Porn Addiction, Will Travel

We have a closet that perpetually needs to be cleaned out and organized. It seems to attract junk on a daily basis. It’s also the holding spot for all things craft, which means it receives regular visits from our youngest. And while she normally creates something of beauty, she leaves…

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8 Myths That Will Roadblock Your Path to Recovery

“I think you may have an addiction. You need to be in recovery.” As soon as I heard those words, I fired my therapist. Me – an addict? Me – in need of recovery? I was an educated man, an author, a university board chairman, an NBA chaplain. I was…

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Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder Is Now Officially Recognized

Sexual addiction is becoming an official mental health diagnosis. The World Health Organization (WHO) met in May of this year and adopted the new ICD-11, which includes the diagnosis of Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder (CSBD). Covenant Eyes users might think, “What does this mean for my struggle with porn? How should…

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Do You Have the Emotional Intelligence to Quit Porn?

“Yeah, I would say Kevin is making good progress with his pornography addiction,” Carol told me during a couple’s session when I asked if she thought her husband was on the right path of recovery. “But there’s still something wrong. He doesn’t talk, except to give one-word answers, and I…

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How to Lose Your Desire for Porn and Lust

For many struggling with porn, their #1 goal is to stop looking at it. This is why we install Covenant Eyes on our computers and have accountability partners ask us if we’ve stumbled this week (all good and needed things). But is it really freedom if you’ve stopped looking at…

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Lust, Fantasies, and God’s Riches for Needy Souls

Have you ever had a dream, and I don’t mean a good dream, but a raw, perverse, nasty, “I’d like to forget that as quickly as possible” kind of a dream? If not, that’s probably a good thing; but keep reading because this article isn’t just about what to do…

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Why Medicating Shame’s Pain with Porn Never Works

Shame is as old as Adam and Eve…well, almost. Genesis 2:24-25 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.” In the beginning God…

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7 Relationship Changes That Saved My Life: Tony’s Story

My sexual addiction almost destroyed my life.  Although I became a Christian when I was 16 years old, and immediately fell in love with God, I remained completely powerless in my ability to resist sexual temptation.  This led to a terrible cycle of ongoing failure in my life that repeated…