I had the “perfect” Christian upbringing. My dad was a pastor, and our family’s faith was strongly integrated into every aspect of our life from day one. I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior at a young age and felt confident in what I believed and how I lived…
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How to Deal with Secret Sexual Struggles
My heart was pounding. My hands were sweaty. I knew I needed to be honest about my struggle but it was the last thing in the world I wanted to talk about. Especially to my parents. As scared as I was of being honest, I couldn’t bear the weight of…
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10 Things Purity Was Never Meant to Be
I was the teenager reading Christian books about modesty, purity, and relationships. I often read my favorite books over and over again. I loved learning and striving to understand God’s design for my life as a Christian girl. I wore the purity ring. I read I Kissed Dating Goodbye. I…
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Marriage Is Not the Answer to Your Desire for Sex
It’s a line often heard in well-intentioned lessons on sexual purity: God created sex. It’s His. Pornography and premarital sex are just distortions of what God made that is good: sex within marriage. Those sexual desires you feel are good, you just need to channel them into marriage. (Or as…
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Why We Need the Message of Celibacy Now More Than Ever
When was the last conversation, sermon, or radio program you heard or participated in that celebrated celibacy as a virtue? A choice to be lifted up, praised, and promoted? What if celibacy was viewed as a cherished goal instead of a cross to bear? What if we took a new…
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5 Messages Porn-Using Singles Need to Hear
“I’m single, so what’s the big deal with watching porn?” A message that says it’s more acceptable for a single person to use porn than someone in a relationship sugar coats the same lie with a different colored sugar. The truths I share in this article apply to both men…
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Why Dump Porn Before You Date
If you’re one of the unmarried blokes or blokettes here at Covenant Eyes, you may not have paid any attention to the “Rebuild Your Marriage” section of this blog, but I urge you to take note, because these posts written to the married peeps will open your eyes to how…
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How to Steer Clear of Porn When Intimacy Is Lacking
“The ultimate pleasure you and I seek is intimacy, and the ultimate intimacy is with God.” –Ravi Zacharias A great need of the human heart is connection. We long to belong, to rest in the fact that we are wanted and appreciated, to bear our hearts to another and still…
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Why Marrying a Supermodel Won’t Satisfy
I remember the way I thought about marriage back when I was a single chap. I had determined that if I was ever going to get married (i.e. tied down to just one woman for the rest of my days), my wife would have to meet three criteria: She had…
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From Your Future Wife: Please, please don’t do this one thing…
Reflecting back on our marriage I can clearly see the “one thing” I had done that lead to a lot of pain, broken trust, and wounded love. This “one thing” did enormous harm to our marriage. To this day, I still need to be intentional in this area to not…