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My heart was pounding. My hands were sweaty. I knew I needed to be honest about my struggle but it was the last thing in the world I wanted to talk about. Especially to my parents. As scared as I was of being honest, I couldn’t bear the weight of…
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[Knock] [Knock]. “Zack, we need to talk. May I come in?” “Sure dad. What do you want to talk about?” Just moments earlier, walking down the hall with face flushed, palms sweating, heart pounding, and thoughts racing, this father was thinking, “How did it come to this? It just seems…
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“We know this wasn’t you; women just don’t have this problem.” Those words hit hard. More than anything, I wanted to be caught. Here I was, red-handed, with a red folder. If they had checked my email they would have found pictures I had sent to a man at a…
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by Jim Vander Spek Like many who have trouble with sexual purity issues, I sought out help from Christian Counselors and Christian Recovery groups in the past. Unfortunately, they did not help me in the way that I needed help. I am convinced that counselors and recovery groups would do…
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(The following post is from a friend and avid reader who wants to remain anonymous. I asked him to write up some book reviews for our blog. This is his third installment.) Sex Isn’t the Problem (Lust Is) is a slightly modified version of Not Even a Hint, published in…
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The following is an edited excerpt from Chapter 5 of the free e-book The Porn Circuit: Understand Your Brain and Break Porn Habits in 90 Days. The pornified brain sounds a lot like Mick Jagger; it can’t get no satisfaction. On the surface it sounds absurd. Pornography offers endless opportunities…
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After his wife had caught him for the third time, Steve came into Heart to Heart Counseling Center and admitted he was trapped in a secret world of pornography and masturbation. In his first counseling session, one major question replayed in his mind. No, the question wasn’t, “How do I…
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“Um, just so you know. I’m the one with the problem. I’m not calling because my husband or boyfriend has a problem. I’m the addict. Is the counselor comfortable talking to women?” “Yes, he talks to female clients all of the time,” the voice on the other end of the…
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Christians and other religious individuals are widely known for opposing pornography for all kinds of moral reasons. I happen to be one of them, so when I tell people I’m getting ready to publish a whole book about the ills of pornography, many people assume I’m primarily speaking to fellow…
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A week or so ago I received an e-mail from a man whose wife passed away recently. They had been married for nearly 40 years. In his loneliness, he says, he fantasizes about times of intimacy with his wife and masturbates. He knows it would be wrong to fantasize about anyone else,…