Articles by Noah Filipiak

Noah Filipiak is a pastor and the author of Beyond the Battle: A Man's Guide to his Identity in Christ in an Oversexualized World (Zondervan)He also hosts The Flip Side Podcast. If you desire to be free from lust, porn, and fantasy, you can join Noah and his team in an online small group at Beyond the Battle, or get the leader guide to run your own group.

When Fantasy Invades Your Marriage

Fantasy seems like an invincible foe. Close your eyes and you can picture anything you want, with no one to stop you. Unlimited helpings of dessert, without gaining any weight? Done. Scoring the winning touchdown…

4 Barriers to Accountability (And How to Overcome Them to Find Freedom)

Most of us know accountability is important, so why don’t we better utilize it? Here are four reasons: We don’t know who to trust or who can handle our stuff. You might feel it’s hard…

What Christian Culture Has Gotten Wrong About Sexual Purity

Let me start with something that is fundamental to addressing sexual purity: churches have to talk about porn. I went to church every Sunday morning, Sunday night, and Wednesday night growing up and we never…

How a Little “Harmless” Entertainment Can Affect Your Husband

Numerous Christian men I’ve counseled have shared how their Christian wives read romance novels and watch movies and shows that contain nudity in front of them, even asking them to watch with them. Ironically, these…

#MeToo and the Deep Cultural Concerns It Highlights

Social media has been taken by storm in recent weeks with brave women sharing their #metoo stories. Stories about how “they too” have been sexually abused, sexually assaulted, or sexually harassed during their lifetime. This movement…

Women Are Daughters, Not Objects

I’m a very outnumbered man in my household. My wife and I had our third daughter this summer, to go along with our 3- and 5-year-olds. Even my dog is a girl! I am deeply…

When It Feels Like You’ve Been Irreparably Damaged by Porn

I looked at porn pretty regularly from the ages of 13-19. I’m 34 now and have been almost completely unexposed to pornographic images throughout the past 15 years. My wife and I were both virgins when…

Porn in the Church: 5 Reasons We Shouldn’t Talk About It (Sarcasm Alert!)

Because no one in your church is looking at porn. Sure, 79% of men ages 18 to 30 are looking at porn once a month and 63% are looking at it several times a week. It…

Why Disney Relationships Are Just Like Porn

I’m the dad of 3- and 4-year-old daughters.  I’m an expert on Disney princesses. My daughters have every word of the Frozen soundtrack memorized and have more Disney princess toys and articles of clothing than…