Porn and Your Husband

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3 thoughts on “How Can I Prepare for My Husband’s Next Porn Relapse?

  1. Awesome article, Coach Rae. You’ve provided many tips partners need to hear. There’s always an unspoken of “What if he relapses?” in the wives and girlfriends.

    The possibility is so painful they are afraid of even voicing it–and that’s definitely how it was for me.

    So I’m so glad you addressed this issue so pointedly.

    I personally will be using one of your tips with the couples we work with (the ‘relapse preparedness fund’ and how to get him to agree with it.) Awesome!

  2. Rae,
    I have a question for you. Let’s change the players a bit. You had a one night stand. (sexual not a rock band). You & your hubby are committed to restoration. Your two yrs. out from the full disclosure , therapy, etc.

    At your workplace one day after an office meeting you linger to discuss a project w/a co-worker. He’s hot. In this discussion you happen to kiss him. Its brief, just once & you feel devasted!

    You tell your hubby & he forgives you & you discuss w/your therapist.

    Six months later you have to go on a business trip. After the meeting w/client you stop for a drink in the hotel bar. A guy asked you to dance. He happens to “touch” you all the while you know he is up for more, if you are. It felt good to be held & a little touchy not bad.

    Then back in the room (alone) your devasted again. Upon returning home you disclose fully to hubby AND….does he forgive you AGAIN?

    In a large survey 75% of married men stated if their wife committed adultery they would LEAVE her. Only about 25% of women said they would leave if their husband was the Adulter. Interesting.

    Change the sin…do we continue to allow a spouse to be drunk or stoned? An alcoholic in real recovery can’t continue taking a drink. Neither the drug addict.

    Bottom line if a husband continues in Porn there has not been the “Godly Sorrow” that the Apostle Paul stated in the NT that leads to REAL repentance.

    And the wife & children are in real danger for the Spiritual, Emotional & even Physical safety.

    • Hi, Wren – thank you for sharing a clear, calm, logical response. I appreciate it.

      Chris

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