The darkness of the room was only broken by the glow of the screen. The darkness in his heart wasn’t—couldn’t—be broken by anything. The 12-year-old boy felt hopeless as he sat in front of the computer again—again enslaved by the porn that he couldn’t stop thinking about and yet hated…
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My Choice Between Marriage and Porn
The following narrative is based on a true story shared by one of our members. Names and details have been changed to protect privacy. The Ultimatum Amy handed me the ring, “I can’t marry you. Not yet.” She looked away and wiped the tears from her eyes. My stomach reeled.…
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The one thing you need to do to break porn habits forever
I wish it were that simple. One thing? If it were that simple then it would be simple, but you and I both know that is not the case. Certainly gouging out your eyes and cutting off your hands as Jesus mentions in Matthew 5 is an option, but not…
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Purity Culture and Its Unfortunate Intersection With Porn
It seems like every few weeks, something happens to make purity culture trend on Twitter. As of this writing, it’s trending due to the release of a podcast about the brief lifespan of a major megachurch, but nearly anything could trigger rants about purity culture: an influencer’s “deconstruction”; the revelation…
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The Two Most Important Questions to Ask If You Have a Setback
Recently, a married man from a support group I lead had two setbacks (or relapses) with porn on the same day. But rather than quitting, he sheepishly retorted, “It was just what the doctor ordered!” One of the hardest things to understand or accept is that setbacks may be a part…
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Addiction Recovery: What Do I Need to Do?
Since my own addiction recovery journey began in 2009, I have had dozens, if not hundreds, of opportunities to speak with men at “square one.” Their own addiction has either just been exposed or they have just confessed it. They are in an emotional and spiritual crater. Their life seems…
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$28-Billion-Crime: New film shows the dark connection between sex addiction and sex trafficking
I stood before a less-than-captive audience at the local community college talking about the subject of pornography. I had been called in as a “special lecturer” for a required Ethics class to discuss the moral problems associated with porn. In order to wake the class from their usual slumber, I…
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4 Reasons You Should Be An Abolitionist
“Human trafficking is the world’s fastest growing criminal enterprise and is an estimated $32 billion-a-year global industry” (California DOJ). The numbers are devastating. More than 27 million people spend every day as modern-day slaves, 2 million of which are children. Many of the children and adults are victims of sex trafficking.…
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Having Productive Conversations When Your Husband Watches Porn
The following is an excerpt from Porn and Your Husband: A Recovery Guide for Wives. Discovering that her husband watches porn can be devastating for a wife. Her emotions may fluctuate wildly from fear to disbelief, from numbness to anger. She may want to lash out in revenge – to…
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What to Do if Your Husband Lies About Porn Use
You just caught your husband watching porn. And you felt it. The sinking feeling in your stomach. The stab across your chest when you saw what your husband was looking at. Maybe even the screaming void that wordlessly reminds you this wasn’t the first time. But when you try to confront…