Women and Porn

This article is intended to be a quick reference collection of resources for women. To keep things simple, they are placed in two categories:


Supporting someone with a porn problem

Society easily recognizes the problem that porn is for the person struggling with it. But it doesn’t usually address the people that are hurt by the struggler. These links are for you.

Blog posts from Covenant Eyes

Brain Chemicals and Porn Addiction: Science Shows How Porn Harms Us

Husbands Who Watch Porn: Wives are asking, “What’s wrong with me?”

5 Lies I Believed When My Husband Was Watching Porn

Free ebooks from Covenant Eyes

Hope After Porn: 4 Women Share Their Heartache…and How Their Marriages Were Saved

Porn and Your Husband: A Recovery Guide for Wives

Books

Beyond Betrayal: How God is Healing Women (and Couples) from Infidelity by Lisa Taylor

When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart by Vicki Teade

Support groups

Betrayal Trauma Recovery – “a daily support group, with multiple sessions a day in multiple time zones.”

Bloom – an online, Catholic-based course for women who have been hurt by someone else’s sexual sin.

Celebrate Recovery – generalized support but widely available, “a Christ-centered, 12 step recovery program for anyone struggling with hurt, pain or addiction of any kind.”

Hope Redefined – “Support and Coaching for Wives of Sexual Betrayal.”

Porn Pain Healed – “His Porn. Your Pain. Healed.” Lori Pyatt is a certified mentor and the site includes her story, her blog, and information about mentoring for healing.

Pure Desire – offers assistance, from a Christian perspective, to strugglers and those who support them.

Pure Life Ministries – “dealing with sexual addiction and its consequences for over 30 years,” they offer resources to both the struggler and the supporter.


Dealing with a personal struggle

While our world tends to think of porn as being a man’s problem, that’s just not true. Content creators of “adult” material have targeted female audiences for years. While the motivations/triggers/etc. can be different, a woman can become just as trapped by pornography as a man.

Reading material

I Was a Christian Woman Hooked on Lesbian Porn  – a Covenant Eyes blog post

True Story: Woman Finds Healing After 15 Years of Addiction  – a  Covenant Eyes blog post

Beggar’s Daughter – the blog of Jessica Harris, “a Christian girl addicted to porn and [who] found freedom. I wanted other women to know they were not alone.”

Clean Heart Online – a Catholic resource with a few blog posts, an online course, and a novena for women who are struggling with, or supporting someone with, a porn issue.

Dirty Girls Come Clean – a book written by Crystal Renaud

The Grace Spot – Alice Taylor’s website “exists to validate women’s struggles, help them move forward into healing, and raise awareness that porn is not just a ‘guys’ issue.”

Support groups

Celebrate Recovery – generalized support but widely available, “a Christ-centered, 12 step recovery program for anyone struggling with hurt, pain or addiction of any kind.”

Naked Truth Recovery – based in New Zealand but online worldwide, “we have a range of programmes and resources for porn users and their partners or spouses.”

Pure Desire – online recovery groups for men, women, and young adults to find hope and healing from the effects of sexual brokenness.

Pure Life Ministries – “dealing with sexual addiction and its consequences for over 30 years,” they offer resources to both the supporter and the struggler.

SheRecovery – focused on porn addiction support for women.