How do I choose an ally?

An ally receives your activity reports via email and holds you accountable for what you’re viewing on your devices. Your ally does not need to subscribe to Covenant Eyes or install our software. The ally does need a (free) Covenant Eyes username/profile to receive reports for you.

Select an option below to review the frequently asked questions about allies or view some related article titles:

Who makes a good ally?

A good ally is someone who:

  1. Affirms you. This person is truly supportive of you, but is not a pushover or a control freak.
  2. Asks the hard questions. You have mutual respect with this person and he/she is comfortable with open communication about your specific triggers and goals.
  3. Helps you achieve your goals. This person applauds your victories and is encouraging of your progress, no matter how big or small.

Should my spouse be my ally?

Spouses can be a natural ally option. However, a spouse/partner may also be too close to the situation to give constructive support and may need personal healing. Your spouse should decide whether or not they want to be your ally.

How do I bring up the subject in person?

  1. Share your story. Tell your potential ally what you’re struggling with and what steps you’re taking to overcome pornography in your life.
  2. Explain your expectations. You need to explain what accountability means to you, what Covenant Eyes does, and how an ally is involved in helping you reach your goals.
  3. Ask him/her to be your ally. You should ask the person to be your ally, but don’t demand an immediate answer. Invite them to ask you questions, and give them a few days to think it over. Do not force or beg someone to be your ally; Potential allies should willingly consent to be an ally.

How do I invite an ally?

You can add/invite someone new to your account to become your ally; you can also add someone from your account. To learn how to invite an ally, read How do I add or remove an ally?

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