How do I choose an ally?

An ally receives your activity reports via email or via the Victory app to hold you accountable for what you’re viewing on your devices.

Select an option below to review the frequently asked questions about allies or view some related article titles:

Who makes a good ally?

  1. A good ally affirms you. This person genuinely supports you but is not a pushover or a control freak.
  2. A good ally asks the hard questions. You have mutual respect for this person, and they are comfortable with open communication about your specific triggers and goals.
  3. A good ally helps you achieve your goals. This person applauds your victories and encourages your progress, no matter how big or small.

Should my spouse be my ally?

Spouses can be a natural fit for allyship. However, a spouse/partner may be unable to give you constructive support because your struggle may affect them, their self-image, or your relationship. Your spouse should decide whether or not they want to be your ally.

How do I bring up the subject in person?

  1. Share your story. Tell your potential ally what you’re struggling with and what steps you’re taking to overcome pornography in your life.
  2. Explain your expectations. You need to explain what accountability means to you, what Covenant Eyes does, and how an ally is involved in helping you reach your goals.
  3. Ask them to be your ally. You should ask the person to be your ally, but don’t demand an immediate answer. Invite them to ask you questions, and give them a few days to think it over. Do not force or beg someone to be your ally; Potential allies should willingly consent to be an ally.

How do I invite an ally?

You can add/invite someone new to your account to become your ally; you can also add someone from your account. To learn how to invite an ally, read How do I add or remove an ally?

Note: Your ally does not need to subscribe to Covenant Eyes. The ally does need a (free) Covenant Eyes username/profile to receive your activity.

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