When we hear that phrase (“I don’t have an ally”), it tends to mean one of two things:
You are ready to change, but not ready to talk with someone else about your struggle with pornography.
We get it, this is a tough subject to deal with; it’s a tough subject to talk about. Creating a Covenant Eyes account gives you some tools:
- an app that can block a lot of online porn and monitors your activity
- reports, from the app, that serve as your personal indicator of progress
- encouraging emails that remind you of your goals and motivations
- supportive, US-based Member Care agents available via chat, email, or phone
Admitting there’s an issue is the first step, and you’re taking that one! A bigger step, one that we’ve seen to be critical for lifelong freedom, is allowing someone else to know about the issue. When you enlist an ally, you’ll increase your chances of breaking the cycle.
You are ready to talk, but might not know who to talk to about your struggle.
Here are some suggestions:
- a trusted friend or mentor
- a local pastor or priest
- join a generalized support group like Celebrate Recovery
- join a men’s support group like Samson Society (virtual or in-person) or STRIVE (anonymous sign-up available)
- join a specialized support group like Pure Desire or Sexaholics Anonymous
Many people find freedom when they get a friend involved. You’ll know when you need to take that step. Keep in mind that an ally does not need to pay for Covenant Eyes or install anything, he/she just needs to create a username.
For now, be sure to install Covenant Eyes and start walking towards freedom. If you need help installing the app, please contact our Member Care team. They are happy to help!
*In some cases, talking openly with someone you don’t know, and won’t run into, can be a helpful first step. If that appeals to you, consider a one-time, free consultation with a licensed and/or pastoral counselor at Focus on the Family. To contact them, go online or call 855.771.4357.