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Why There Is No Sex in Heaven
Here are two contrasting cultural beliefs for you to consider: Sex is…
Here are two contrasting cultural beliefs for you to consider: Sex is the best thing on the planet Heaven is full of the best things we can imagine So if both of these things are…
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If You Love Her, Tell Her the Truth
Consistently, wives of sex addicts share with me how the lies and…
Consistently, wives of sex addicts share with me how the lies and secrets their husbands keep from them hurt more than the sexual acting out itself. I asked a few of these wives the question,…
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Marriage Is Not the Answer to Your Desire for Sex
It’s a line often heard in well-intentioned lessons on sexual purity: God…
It’s a line often heard in well-intentioned lessons on sexual purity: God created sex. It’s His. Pornography and premarital sex are just distortions of what God made that is good: sex within marriage. Those sexual…
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3 Tools Every Marriage Needs to Fight Porn Addiction
The day I stood at the altar, I wish someone would have…
The day I stood at the altar, I wish someone would have told Craig and me that there are three tools every marriage needs to survive—grace, truth, and love. I wish someone would have also…
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3 Essential Responses to Your Spouse’s Betrayal Trauma Triggers
“What are you looking at?!” Lisa shrieks while her eyes bulge and…
“What are you looking at?!” Lisa shrieks while her eyes bulge and her body pulses with adrenaline. Doug looks up from his phone like a deer caught in the headlights. Panicked, he tries to reassure…
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Are You Pursuing Sexual Intimacy or Just Sexual Activity?
A growing trend in our culture is the separation of sex from…
A growing trend in our culture is the separation of sex from intimacy. Perhaps the most obvious example of this is the “hook up” culture, described by Dr. Lisa Wade in her book The Great American…
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2 Things Your Spouse Doesn’t Need to Know About Your Porn Use
If there are certain things you shouldn’t tell your spouse about your…
If there are certain things you shouldn’t tell your spouse about your porn addiction, it must mean there are important things s/he does needs to know. First and foremost, that you are using pornography. Confessing…
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How Boundaries Saved Our Marriage (Part 3)
In Part One and Part Two of this series on boundaries and…
In Part One and Part Two of this series on boundaries and marriage, we’ve told you about our messy journey to recovery. Although 15 years ago we almost lost our marriage to pornography addiction, this…