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Free E-Book: Your Brain on Porn (Revised and Updated)

Last Updated: July 18, 2014

Your Brain on PornOur most downloaded e-book, Your Brain on Porn, has recently been revised and updated. Like all our e-books, it is still available for free for download.

When I first wrote this book three years ago, it was the culmination of many learning experiences. At the end of February 2010, I had the pleasure of having Dr. William Struthers, author of Wired for Intimacy, over to my home for dinner. His research about the impact of porn on the brain fascinated me. Since then, the more I’ve learned about it, the more I’ve come to really appreciate the value of neurological data when it comes to talking about the harms of pornography.

About a year later I had the pleasure of hearing a dynamic presentation by Mary Anne Layden at the Convergence Summit. She talked at length about the research done by Dr. Dolf Zillmann and Dr. Jennings Bryant in the 1980s. I was struck how researchers were able to see a correlation between watching pornography and harmful sexual beliefs. It was investigating their research for myself that gave me the core of the book.

Lastly, I had growing burden to see a well-rounded Biblical response to the problem of porn. The Scriptures, though they are ancient, still give guidance to the modern porn addict, and I wanted to present a brief but powerful message to those ensnared in this habitual sin.

What Has Been Updated?

The main premises of the book are the same, but much as been added. The revised version is over 65% longer than the first edition.

  • New research has been included about the impact of porn on the brain.
  • All charts and statistics have been updated.
  • Instead of three biblical ways to renew the mind, we now have five, giving a more holistic look at what the Scriptures say about walking in the Spirit (Galatians 5:16).

Porn is a Personal Matter

Despite all the talk about neurology, psychology, and Biblical interpretation, this book is far more than an academic project for me. It is personal. I know firsthand what it is like to feel hopelessly trapped in a cycle of temptation, sin, and remorse. I also know firsthand how the Spirit of God comes to rescue hopelessly trapped people like me. Your Brain on Porn is perhaps the closely thing to a magnum opus I’ve written on this subject, and I pray this second edition will help even more people than the first one has.

For the follower of Christ, the ultimate goal is not merely “quitting pornography,” but is something far richer and more comprehensive. If merely modifying behavior was the most important thing, there are any number of psychological tips and tricks one can use. But for the Christian, as it should be for all people, the goal is not merely recovering from pornography, but being remade by God Himself into the image of the perfect Man, Jesus Christ.

This is the work of the Holy Spirit…

Walking in the Spirit is a lifetime journey, but as we keep in step with Him, we are promised that the desires of the flesh will not overwhelm us. We can finally be free.

Such a vision of the Christian life might seem too high up and too far away for us, especially if we’ve lived for a long time in the shame of our darkest sexual obsessions. Daring to believe that God is as good as He says He is takes faith in the face of our deepest struggles.

– Excerpt, Your Brain on Porn

  1. Claudia maldonaldo

    hi guys I’m destroy I have been married for 10 years together 13 we have 4 kids ….
    when I met my husband I just turn 18 he was 28 ..so yeah very young ..went are was pregnant of are first child I caught him few time watching porn ,but he would say you didn’t want to have any and I needed some..(my fault) ….I haven’t caught him again but I have found some dirty pants or towels around there bed …and being pregnant 4 time more then one I said I wasn’t feeling good for it ,so yet pretty sure he carry on do it .but for some reason didn’t bother me that much I still would say some snarky comment about . like …have you finish wan$#@%….yet to the phone .. or when we make love ..and he perform to quick …I would say . …did you look at your phone to much didn’t letf anything for me .. I what ever I say ..he would reply you didn’t want anything…I got need .. so….
    last week on his sleep he is say
    !oh yeah I love perky ti@#$ and tight pu$#@???..went I hear this I thought. well is def not talking about Me . after for kids breast fed nothing is perky and tight over here. . so I snoop in his phone .and I found in mensseger from few of his friends at least a 2 dozen of videos of women breast ,having sex all kind , and somes very disturbing one to me ..with girls getting naked holding the phone and masturbating.. in the car in the bedroom, in the kitchen…
    my husband work as a lorry drive not away thou. he come home every day..but still away all day enough time to have fun on his phone …I been crying for days …I don’t know what to do or say……he think I’m still mad about his dream ..because I told him the next morni g what were he saying.. answer to that ……because he doesn’t get enough at home he dreams of it …..again my fault .. ..I don’t think I CANT TRUST .. all I think now is when we making live who is he thinking me or the girls in this videos 😢 my body is not in the best sexy or curvy and fit statu so seeing this girls on this videos makes me feel so fat and ugly ……I wonder if is that what he wants really not me …sorry for keep going on ..but I don’t have not one to talk all my family is in South America…I don’t want to confinted on closed friend because I’m afraid that they look as is my fault..or is nothing wrong about ..I don’t know …I just keep my mouth shut..Cry my self to sleep every night..

    • Kay Bruner

      I’m so sorry. I think you have to consider what healthy boundaries will look like for you. You’ll have to have some hard conversations with him, more than likely. Here, here, and here are some articles that might help. Find a counselor just for you, a group for you, and check out the online resources at Bloom for Women. Of course you don’t trust him; he is not trustworthy right now. He will need to do a lot of work in order to be trustworthy, but meanwhile you can make healthy choices for yourself. Peace to you, Kay

  2. Lilly

    My husband of 10 years has become a stranger to me. I never thought he would do bad things because he always told me how much he loved me but I accidentally found photos of naked girls on his phone while taking family pictures during a holiday after my phone died. It turned out to be his ex girlfriend he dated before we were married. He had been sexting with her for years including when we were first married and when I was pregnant. His excuse was that she was someone to talk to, and I didn’t have enough sex with him after our babies were born.

    I’ve never looked into his stuff before but after that I did, and I found out that he watches porn multiple times per day including at work. At a previous job he had a group of male friends that would take photos of their girlfriends naked and share them by text. He gave naked pictures of me to his friends. He also would take pictures of women’s backsides and down their shirts as they leaned over the counter to look at merchandise.

    I try talking to him but he only admits what I already know, then when I find more he admits to that but “doesn’t remember” anything else. He has always been verbally abusive in the past and I blamed myself not knowing what was going on. I don’t know how to move on from here, this is such a deeply imbedded issue for him that I don’t know how he can overcome it.

    • Kay Bruner

      It sounds to me like he’s not working to overcome it. It sounds to me like he doesn’t even want to try at this point. If he doesn’t want to, there’s nothing you can do. This is his work, and his work alone.

      Given the reality of the situation, what will healthy boundaries look like for you? Here, here, and here are some articles to help you think that through. You might want to find a therapist who can help you process and make healthy choices going forward.

      Peace,
      Kay

  3. Lee

    I need help

    • Chris McKenna

      Hi, Lee, what kind of help are you looking for?

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