Articles by Rick Thomas

Rick Thomas leads a training network for Christians to assist them in becoming more effective soul care providers. RickThomas.net reaches people around the world through consulting, training, podcasting, writing, counseling, and speaking.  In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and in 1991 he earned a BS in Education. In 1993 he was ordained into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with a MA in Counseling from The Master’s College in Santa Clarita, CA. In 2006 he was recognized as a  Fellow with Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).

Men are tempted to lust; Women are tempted to be lusted after

Men are tempted to give themselves to pornography, while women are tempted to pornography. – Al Mohler Porn is a two-way street. Pornography is not just about a man who is seeking a sexual object…

Insecure husband & critical wife: a case study

Paul and Judie have been married for 21 years. They have three teenaged children: boy, boy, and girl. They attend a Reformed church in town. Both Paul and Judie are active members in their church.…

Backward Porn Addiction: when women draw attention to themselves

I think most of us understand what a porn addiction is. It is typically understood to be when a man seeks to lust after a woman. But what about a Backward Porn Addiction? What is that? Frankly,…

When People Are Big and God Is Small (Book Review)

There are some books written so well that there is hardly a need for another one to be written on the topic. When People are Big and God is Small, by Edward T. Welch, is…

Dear Diary: Safe sex nearly destroyed my marriage

I don’t remember when I first started looking at porn. I also don’t remember why. It was so long ago. I didn’t particularly enjoy it, meaning I could take it or leave it. My friends…

Facebook: A Worldwide Leader In False Intimacy

If Facebook were a country, it would be the largest country in the world. For most of us, it is a good and useful tool, though it is not a surprise how it could be…

Porn: The Drug that Shrinks the Soul

Over 50% of evangelical pastors admitted to viewing porn last year. More than 70% of men from the age of 18 to 34 visit a pornography site each month. Nine out of ten children from…

Keys to living with a frog who acted like a prince

When Lois found out about Clark’s porn problem she was devastated. From her perspective there was no hope that their marriage could ever be restored. There were some things she could overlook, but anything related…

I Married My Savior, and My Savior Sinned Against Me…

Lois had a rude awakening when she discovered Clark’s porn addiction… Lois came from an abusive and dysfunctional family background. As I listened to her story, I was holding back tears as she told me…