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Ella Hutchinson is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) who is passionate about advocating for partners of sex addicts by helping them to find their voice. She served for three years as a founding board member of the Association for Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). Today, she proudly serves on the board of directors for the organization, Certified Sex Addiction Specialists-International (CSASI). Ella and her husband, Jeff, work together helping couples whose marriages have been invaded by sexual addiction.

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6 Ways to Raise a Sex Addict

In my seven years of counseling sex addicts and their wives, I’ve seen some common themes amongst the sex addicts’ families of origin. I’d like to share them with you today. Here are six ways…

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Why is my husband so angry? It all comes down to shame. (Part 2)

Read Part 1 of “Why is my husband so angry? It all comes down to shame.” As a female sex addiction therapist I feel I am at a significant disadvantage. Sex addicts often started out…

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Why is my husband so angry? It all comes down to shame.

As I look back on almost seven years of treating wives of sex addicts I can only think of one who said her husband didn’t have serious issues with anger. Women share stories of their…

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Stop the Abuse of Partners of Sex Addicts

Over the last decade, there have been a handful of professionals in the sex addiction treatment community who are trying to change the treatment of partners of sex addicts. This group is growing and has…

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Why Support Groups Will Help You Heal from Betrayal

“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise,…

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10 Ways You Can Help Your Husband Leave Porn Behind

I often have wives ask me what they can do to help their husband recover from porn or sexual addiction. Every time I hear this question my heart sinks a little because I fear if…

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Yes, Porn is a Big Deal: A Response to Elite Daily

Dear Alexia, I am a Licensed Professional Counselor as well as a Certified Clinical Sexual Addiction Specialist, living and working in Houston, TX. I am writing you in response to your article on Elite Daily,…

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What Every Wife of a Sex Addict Has a Right to Know About Her Husband’s Recovery

When sex addicts are in early recovery, their wives (if they have chosen to stay in the marriage) live in fear. Fear that you will relapse. Fear that you will cheat again. Fear that you…

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7 Tips for Wives of Sex Addicts: Looking for a Good Therapist

Avoiding Treatment-Induced Trauma and Finding the Help You Really Need It can be harder than you think to find a counselor who really gets the trauma you have suffered as a partner of a porn…