Complete How-To Guide for Christian Accountability Partners

“I don’t need an accountability partner. I’m accountable to God.”

Unfortunately, this attitude is commonplace in the church today. Granted, it is often driven by good motives. Some men and women believe accountability is about heavy-handed shaming tactics. Others see accountability as a way to reinforce an obsession with moral performance. Still, others dislike accountability because they believe it’s just therapeutic nonsense—cheap peace for unloading an guilty conscience.

If these describe accountability, then yes, count me out.

But what if Christian accountability is something totally different? What if the Bible casts a different vision for accountability?

That’s why I wrote Coming Clean: Overcoming Lust Through Biblical Accountability. Instead of seeing accountability as a last resort, the Bible calls us to practice accountability as a lifestyle.

The Pillars of Christian Accountability

The New Testament uses the phrase “one another” (ἀλλήλων in the Greek) dozens of times. Attached to this phrase are vivid descriptions of what our friendships are supposed to look like in the body of Christ.

Accountability is a term the church often uses to summarize several of these one- anothers. James 5:16 and Hebrews 10:23-25 give us four building blocks of Christian accountability: meeting together, confessing sins to one another, praying for one another, and encouraging one another.

Above these pillars is the capstone of accountability: the gospel. The eternal and powerful promises of the gospel inform, drive, and protect a good accountability relationship. The gospel allows accountability partners to meet, confess, pray, and encourage each other in the light of God’s grace—a grace that not only removes the guilt of sin but also overcomes the grip of sin.

What You’ll Learn in This Book

  • Why sin and secrecy go hand-in-hand
  • Common reasons why accountability fails
  • How to have a grace-oriented relationship
  • How to hold someone accountable for their beliefs as well as their behaviors
  • Heart-searching accountability questions

Addressing Lust

The central sins addressed in this book are lust and using pornography. There are two reasons for this.

  • First, this book was written to be a bible-saturated companion guide for those who use Accountability Software to help guard against online temptations.
  • Second, lust and porn are common sins that are often regarded as too taboo to talk about.

You Are God’s Means of Grace

Accountability friendships are not an optional appendage to the Christian life. Accountability partners are not crutches for those who aren’t “spiritual enough.” Rather, accountability relationships are one of the ordinary means God has chosen to help us be Godward, to sanctify our hearts.

Learn more in this free e-book. You can read this book by yourself or with an accountability partner or group. Download: Coming Clean: Overcoming Lust Through Biblical Accountability.

Coming Clean Christian Accountability