Covenant Eyes Podcast – Episode 23
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Today on the Covenant Eyes Podcast we’ll be hearing more of Jeff and Marsha Fisher’s story. Jeff was a pastor and a church planter who lost his job when his secret porn addiction came to light. Today Marsha will share how she felt knowing about Jeff’s pornography addiction, how it affected their marriage, and how she felt when he lost his job.
Marsha will also talk about what Jeff has done since to rebuild trust in their marriage, and how she has personally grown as a result of this crisis.
Read more about Jeff and Marsha on their website, PornToPurity.com.
For more information on this topic, read:
- Rebuilding Trust in Marriage After Pornography, by Fred Stoeker.
I enjoyed the honesty of Jeff’s podcast I needed to hear that, there is hope because I am struggling. I had victory for over 11 years, but now my circumstances have changed, my wife has no desire for intimacy. She is going through menopause and I have reverted to porn videos on You tube. I don’t want to stay there, I need prayer, counseling and a miracle.
Christopher, I’m so sorry for the delayed response. You’ve taken the hard step of admitting the issue and bringing it out into the light. I bet you already feel better. And, God’s mercy is fresh every day, and so let’s start that cycle of victory again, ok? I have prayed for you now.
Can you talk to your wife? It might not fix everything, but any open and honest communication will likely help. She’s really not the reason you started looking at porn again. That was your choice. She might need to hear that your love is unconditional, and you’d like to make a commitment to purity and a future intimacy when she is feeling better. I bet going through menopause it horrible. You might have to go back to some of the basic protections that maybe you used when you first broke free, like finding an accountability partner, limiting internet access at certain times of day (depending on your trigger-times), or limiting video access if that’s a trouble-zone. Especially if this is going to be a time when marital intimacy is lacking.
Be strong and courageous! God is for you.
Chris