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More on Opposite-Sex Boundaries for Christian Couples

Last Updated: July 27, 2021

Luke Gilkerson

Luke Gilkerson has a BA in Philosophy and Religious Studies and an MA in Religion. He is the author of Coming Clean: Overcoming Lust Through Biblical Accountability and The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality. Luke and his wife Trisha blog at IntoxicatedOnLife.com

It seems more and more pastors, missionaries and church planters are interested in talking about the appropriate opposite-sex boundaries that need to be in place to protect marriages. Here’s one I found on an Amy Colón blog for wives.

She lists the following boundaries that she and her husband share concerning their interactions with the opposite sex:

  • Side hugs—no “straight on” hugs
  • No riding in a car alone with the opposite sex
  • Limited “one on one” meetings with ladies IN PUBLIC. If needed, she will be directed to me, another female in the church or a counselor OR, she can start meeting with both me and my husband together if she chooses
  • We have all of each-other’s passwords for Facebook, Twitter and email
  • He has given me the freedom to share with him when I think another lady is becoming “too friendly”
  • We share our entire schedule every day via Google calendar, or actually talking to each-other to let each-other know if something new comes up
  • We use Covenant Eyes (an online tracker of websites visited)
  • We have friends and confidants who keep us accountable and ask tough questions

These are some great suggestions for couples. Any thoughts?