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Pure Desire Ministries – Hope for the Porn Addict

Last Updated: August 10, 2021

Luke Gilkerson

Luke Gilkerson has a BA in Philosophy and Religious Studies and an MA in Religion. He is the author of Coming Clean: Overcoming Lust Through Biblical Accountability and The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality. Luke and his wife Trisha blog at IntoxicatedOnLife.com

When it comes to the world of porn addiction, there are several different levels of experience.

  • Level 1: Individuals who can break free from their addictions by devoting themselves to meditating on Scripture, joining small groups, and becoming accountable to others.
  • Level 2: Individuals who cannot seem to break free despite all attempts in Level 1.
  • Level 3: Individuals who have gone beyond Level 2 and has watched their habit begin to destroy their lives, reputations, families, health, and faith.

For people in levels 2 and 3, there is the ministry of Pure Desire. For those who have felt the frustration of “try harder, pray harder” approach to freedom, Pure Desire will be a breath of fresh air.

Pure Desire Small Groups

Pure Desire is about equipping the local church to create the kind of communities needed to help those caught in the grip of sexual addictions.

Pastor Ted Roberts, founder of Pure Desire, writes,

“Based on nearly three decades of local church ministry, I have come to truly believe the church is the hope of the world. I also know that the majority of men and many of the women sitting in the pews, on the platform and at the pulpit are losing the battle of sexual purity.”

Roberts’ ministry to local churches is one that flows from his experiences as a pastor of East Hill Foursquare Church in Gresham, Oregon. He watched the church grow considerably, particularly their small groups for people with counseling needs—drug and alcohol addiction, divorce recovery, marriage enrichment, sexual addiction, etc. Pure Desire continues this valuable ministry of developing healing communities to churches around the globe.

What makes Pure Desire unique?

Much of what Roberts teaches extends not just from his knowledge of the Bible, but he has also adapted material from the research of Michael Dye, a certified addictions counselor and founder of The Genesis Process. Roberts writes,

“The ‘Genesis Process’ is a gift from God. It’s relevant, biblically balanced, and profoundly practical. It is able to help folks who may have lost hope not only find it again, but also to help them experience the Grace of God. Michael Dye has caught the heart of God in a marvelous way.”

What is the Genesis Process? For Michael Dye, the process of preventing relapse—the process of quitting our addictive habits—has to do with understanding how the human brain was built. People are not merely “taught” their way out of an addiction: more raw information will not help. Foundational to the recovery process is fresh experiences of intimacy with other people.

Michael Dye trains those in the church to create gracious and competent communities where addicts can change:

“It takes two things to make the church safe for people who are hurting: grace and competency. Grace makes it safe to share our secrets and our struggles because we won’t be preached to, judged or condemned. In a practical sense, Grace is when people see our hearts rather than our behaviors. Competency makes it safe to reveal our problems because we can see that they have experience, understanding, and they plan to help us change and to become successful.”

Pure Desire teaches that we are wounded in community, and we are healed in community. In community we learn the lies and fears that lead to our addictive sins. But in the healing community of the church, we unlearn those lies and experience the truth.

What does Pure Desire teach?

The foundational material for Roberts’ ministry comes from his book, Pure Desire: Helping People Break Free Form Sexual Struggles, what he calls an “effective battle plan and strategy for dealing with sexual addiction.” In connection to this book there is also:

  • Pure Desire Workbook (for small groups, but also good for individuals)
  • Pure Desire Leadership Training Seminar (a 12-hour DVD training for lay leaders in the church to learn about helping those with sexual addiction)

Pure Desire also has small group guides for women who feel sexually betrayed in marriage, women who have struggled with sexual and relational sin, and a variety of teachings on sex, gender, and marriage.

Accountability is Foundational

For many, the Internet has been the medium for their sexual addictions. Pornography is everywhere online. This is why Pure Desire encourages every person in their small groups to get Covenant Eyes accountability software. This helps  compulsive porn viewers to change the way they use the Internet, and offers a  foundational tool for building trust in small groups.

  • Comments on: Pure Desire Ministries – Hope for the Porn Addict
    1. Gordon Johnson on

      Dear Pure Desire,

      Are there materials for young men, high school age?

      Gordon Johnson

      Reply
      • Luke Gilkerson on

        Gordon, You could contact them via their website and see what sort of materials they have. Thanks.

    2. Tony Abbott on

      My 25 year old son is addicted to porn-I believe he would be best served by an in-residence program-do you know of any that you could send me info on? 970-201-1201, or use my email

      Reply
      • Luke Gilkerson on

        @Tony – I’ll shoot you some ideas.

    3. Bernard on

      Praise the Lord for a Ministry like yours. I would like to start a program in Substance Abuse. For drug addicts and alcoholics. Will you be able to assist me in how to do it? My mentor, Dave Garton struggled seven years to get registration for a Regeneration Program here in South-Africa. He went back to the States three years ago without any luck. We don’t even have degree courses in Substance Abuse. Will you be able to help me, for I don’t know where to go or how to start?

      Reply
    4. Paul Zunker on

      I went through the Pure Desire curriculum at my mens purity group and I say with the utmost certainty that this curriculum by Dr. Ted Roberts was highly instrumental in facilitating the change in my life that God has done. It helped me answer so many of the “whys” of why I couldn’t stop myself from viewing pornography and has helped me put into place a relapse prevention plan that is keeping me free from pornography for close to 3 years now. To anyone looking at starting the Pure Desire program why is or who ever has been struggling with porn, I would say YES…….. do it. It will change your life regardless of where you are on your recovery journey.

      Paul Zunker
      http://www.openrivers.wordpress.com

      Reply
      • Paul Zunker on

        “who is”, not “why is”. :/ Sorry.

    5. Mandyraye on

      I didn’t see anything regarding the secret tabs or privacy tabs. I haven’t seen any program that can stop them from being used. Beings as that is what most people use to access porn there’s no point in Covenant Eyes or any other?

      Reply
      • Annelise Hoshal on

        Hi Mandyraye!

        You are correct in that there isn’t currently an accountability program that can stop or prohibit a user from enabling incognito mode or private browsing, BUT Covenant Eyes is able to monitor a browser when put into incognito mode on both a computer (Windows and Mac) and android devices. So, no matter what state the internet browser is in, Covenant Eyes will be there monitoring the activity. I hope this helps and if you have any further questions please do not hesitate to call our Customer Support, 877.479.1119

      • Vickie on

        Interesting and good point! Never thought of that! So the privacy tab will over ride like Net Nanny etc…

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