Serena was shocked the day she discovered evidence that her husband, who was also a pastor, was having an affair. As the weeks progressed, she learned the awful truth that this was not his first affair. Years of lust and battles with pornography had taken their toll on Josh’s heart, and it seemed like their marriage was at the breaking point.
They decided their marriage was worth saving. He took a 50% cut in income to move with his family to Colorado—putting distance between himself and his former life. But more importantly, this move brought them closer to a new church community.
During a mountain retreat sponsored by his church, Josh experienced a fellowship of friendship that was invaluable. On Friday night a group of men sat in a circle in their cabin when one of the men pulled out a stack of picture cards and asked the guys to choose one that they believed illustrated their life at that time. Josh picked out a picture of an old, rusty bike—no wheels, no chain, useless.
When asked about his card, Josh hoped he would not have to divulge too much information. But the men pressed him—and at that moment the floodgates opened. He confessed everything to this new band of brothers: the porn, the cheating, the lying. All the details came out.
The men gathered around him, embraced him, prayed for him, and built up his fragile heart. It was the beginning of some great friendships.
After the mountain retreat, a small group of men began meeting weekly to encourage each other. Like Josh, these men had also divulged their dirty and sordid pasts during the retreat. He knew, meeting with them, they were men who had experienced great changes in their lives. They were men who knew the allure of sin, but they also knew how to fight it.
Every man in Josh’s group had Covenant Eyes Accountability Software on their computers. Each week they would get one another’s Internet reports, giving a detailed list of all the websites they had visited. As they met weekly to encourage one another, they weren’t afraid to call Josh out if they saw something questionable in his life—online or offline.
Over time, these friendships molded Josh into a new man. More than just Josh being accountable to them, they felt accountable for him. They were going to help Josh be a man of integrity, even in the messiest seasons of failure.