Comments on: Not Just a Man’s Problem – Women and Porn Addiction http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/05/08/not-just-a-mans-problem-women-and-porn-addiction/ Thoughts on Pornography Addiction, Removing Online Temptation, and the Need for Accountability. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 03:58:34 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Dirty Girls « Conversational Theology http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/05/08/not-just-a-mans-problem-women-and-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-45607 Dirty Girls « Conversational Theology Fri, 19 Jun 2009 19:55:20 +0000 http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/?p=225#comment-45607 [...] More here on women and internet porn. [...] [...] More here on women and internet porn. [...]

]]> By: Kristol http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/05/08/not-just-a-mans-problem-women-and-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-37896 Kristol Fri, 24 Apr 2009 23:03:49 +0000 http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/?p=225#comment-37896 Oh my gosh... what a blessing to be able to see that I am not alone in this addiction! Although it doesn't make it any easier to deal with, it lets me know that I am not as alone as I thought I was. I am 43, the mother of 5 great children. I am married to my second husband of 2 yrs, and have struggled w/ pornography addiction (of some type or other) since I was a child. My sister and I were sexually abused by our father since we were little, and he frequently showed us pornography in our home (when Mom wasn't around, of course). I know this has alot to do w/ my current situation, and I hope to be able to get counseling for it someday. In the meantime, I appreciate reading the success stories that have been posted - there is hope! For me, I know my hope will have to lie in Jesus Christ, my savior, and in my Heavenly Father's strength. I have finally realized that I cannot do this ALONE! It just isn't in me, and Satan knows my weaknesses. I will go for months and months w/o a relapse and then it's like I never quit... so disheartening and squashes your self-esteem in a heartbeat. This is holding me back from moving forward in my life - it always has. I pray that I can humble myself enough to rely on God and finally let him heal me. I know that I can be better than this and can be the Mom and wife that my family deserves. Good luck to all you women, and girls, who share this burden. God bless each of us. Oh my gosh… what a blessing to be able to see that I am not alone in this addiction! Although it doesn’t make it any easier to deal with, it lets me know that I am not as alone as I thought I was.
I am 43, the mother of 5 great children. I am married to my second husband of 2 yrs, and have struggled w/ pornography addiction (of some type or other) since I was a child. My sister and I were sexually abused by our father since we were little, and he frequently showed us pornography in our home (when Mom wasn’t around, of course). I know this has alot to do w/ my current situation, and I hope to be able to get counseling for it someday. In the meantime, I appreciate reading the success stories that have been posted – there is hope! For me, I know my hope will have to lie in Jesus Christ, my savior, and in my Heavenly Father’s strength. I have finally realized that I cannot do this ALONE! It just isn’t in me, and Satan knows my weaknesses. I will go for months and months w/o a relapse and then it’s like I never quit… so disheartening and squashes your self-esteem in a heartbeat.
This is holding me back from moving forward in my life – it always has. I pray that I can humble myself enough to rely on God and finally let him heal me. I know that I can be better than this and can be the Mom and wife that my family deserves.
Good luck to all you women, and girls, who share this burden. God bless each of us.

]]> By: Downpour Blog » Blog Archive » Dirty Girls: The New Porn Addicts http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/05/08/not-just-a-mans-problem-women-and-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-21611 Downpour Blog » Blog Archive » Dirty Girls: The New Porn Addicts Tue, 10 Feb 2009 18:20:37 +0000 http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/?p=225#comment-21611 [...] Not Just a Man’s Problem [...] [...] Not Just a Man’s Problem [...]

]]> By: lucy http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/05/08/not-just-a-mans-problem-women-and-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-10297 lucy Fri, 14 Nov 2008 22:57:40 +0000 http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/?p=225#comment-10297 i am a messed up paranoid depressed woman, with no partner. Have been alone, boyfriend wise, virtually all my life yet have plenty of friends (who think im normal). I am addicted to porn (amongst other things) and i think it can be due to a number of things like lack of intimacy and the interesting theory that amy posted about feminism and how women want men to just be men. I know in my case i find all the guys i know are more sensitive and emotional than myself, and i like to watch submissive females and dominant males in porn, although i always feel extremely depressed afterwards. I imagine myself in these situations but i dont REALLY want to be a sex slave. I dont think anyone really wants to no matter how erotic they find it. Personally, i feel that thats all im worth sexually and i think thats due to a lack in any relationship with men besides one night stands. A lot of my troubles with porn stem from a childhood experience when i was raped but to be honest i think for the majority of women addicted to porn you can sum up the problem in one word: <em>loneliness</em><strong> i am a messed up paranoid depressed woman, with no partner. Have been alone, boyfriend wise, virtually all my life yet have plenty of friends (who think im normal).
I am addicted to porn (amongst other things) and i think it can be due to a number of things like lack of intimacy and the interesting theory that amy posted about feminism and how women want men to just be men. I know in my case i find all the guys i know are more sensitive and emotional than myself, and i like to watch submissive females and dominant males in porn, although i always feel extremely depressed afterwards. I imagine myself in these situations but i dont REALLY want to be a sex slave. I dont think anyone really wants to no matter how erotic they find it. Personally, i feel that thats all im worth sexually and i think thats due to a lack in any relationship with men besides one night stands. A lot of my troubles with porn stem from a childhood experience when i was raped but to be honest i think for the majority of women addicted to porn you can sum up the problem in one word: loneliness

]]> By: Welcome to the Women in Recovery Forum! - ThroughTheFlame.org - porn addiction support forums http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/05/08/not-just-a-mans-problem-women-and-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-3010 Welcome to the Women in Recovery Forum! - ThroughTheFlame.org - porn addiction support forums Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:40:47 +0000 http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/?p=225#comment-3010 [...] about women and porn addiction, you may enjoy the following blog posts I've put up recently: 1. Women and Porn Addiction 2. Dirty Girls, The New Porn [...] [...] about women and porn addiction, you may enjoy the following blog posts I’ve put up recently: 1. Women and Porn Addiction 2. Dirty Girls, The New Porn [...]

]]> By: Breaking Free » Blog Archive » Dirty Girls, The New Porn Addicts http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/05/08/not-just-a-mans-problem-women-and-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-2642 Breaking Free » Blog Archive » Dirty Girls, The New Porn Addicts Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:41:19 +0000 http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/?p=225#comment-2642 [...] a prior post, Not Just a Man’s Problem, I opened the can of worms of female porn addiction. I admit my treatment of the subject was [...] [...] a prior post, Not Just a Man’s Problem, I opened the can of worms of female porn addiction. I admit my treatment of the subject was [...]

]]> By: GentlePath http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/05/08/not-just-a-mans-problem-women-and-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-1523 GentlePath Fri, 09 May 2008 19:49:20 +0000 http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/?p=225#comment-1523 I know several people who use your service (Covenant Eyes) to provide a level of accountability with their sponsors. Although I disagree with the religious stuff, it is an excellent program that anyone can use. While I can understand the reasoning in the previous comment, I totally disagree that feminism has much to do with it. Eroticized rage, self-hatred, and betrayal bonding, often stemming from incident(s) of childhood sexual abuse are more likely to be the driving force behind that particular type of pornography. I know several people who use your service (Covenant Eyes) to provide a level of accountability with their sponsors. Although I disagree with the religious stuff, it is an excellent program that anyone can use.

While I can understand the reasoning in the previous comment, I totally disagree that feminism has much to do with it. Eroticized rage, self-hatred, and betrayal bonding, often stemming from incident(s) of childhood sexual abuse are more likely to be the driving force behind that particular type of pornography.

]]> By: Amy http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/05/08/not-just-a-mans-problem-women-and-porn-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-1506 Amy Fri, 09 May 2008 13:28:34 +0000 http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/?p=225#comment-1506 Not having any form of research background in the realm of women and porn, I do have a personal opinion on why porn is attractive to some women. Intimacy issues aside, I can't help but wonder if the draw for some women to porn is a twisted desire to get in line with the God-given design of man and woman. Feminism has tuned so many women into power hungry, control freaks and the side effect is quite bluntly - wimpy men. So my theory is that much like some men enjoy porn for the way the women respond to the men in the film - maybe for some women it is watching men be an exaggeration of what often defines men. Similar to the whole S&M world - do the submissive women actually like being "sexual slaves" or just plain "slaves" or do they enjoy the fact that the dominant one (typically the male) is in charge. That is the way God designed it - not to be abused as often is the case in the S&M world and porn - but the man is supposed to be the leader. So maybe women have created a world where it is hard for the man to BE a man and so the fantasy of an extreme version of this is manifested in the watching of porn. Not having any form of research background in the realm of women and porn, I do have a personal opinion on why porn is attractive to some women. Intimacy issues aside, I can’t help but wonder if the draw for some women to porn is a twisted desire to get in line with the God-given design of man and woman. Feminism has tuned so many women into power hungry, control freaks and the side effect is quite bluntly – wimpy men. So my theory is that much like some men enjoy porn for the way the women respond to the men in the film – maybe for some women it is watching men be an exaggeration of what often defines men. Similar to the whole S&M world – do the submissive women actually like being “sexual slaves” or just plain “slaves” or do they enjoy the fact that the dominant one (typically the male) is in charge. That is the way God designed it – not to be abused as often is the case in the S&M world and porn – but the man is supposed to be the leader. So maybe women have created a world where it is hard for the man to BE a man and so the fantasy of an extreme version of this is manifested in the watching of porn.

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