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Jen Ferguson is a wife, author, and speaker who is passionate about helping couples thrive in their marriages. She and her husband, Craig, have shared their own hard story in their book, Pure Eyes, Clean Heart: A Couple’s Journey to Freedom from Pornography. They continue to help couples along in their journeys to freedom and intimacy. She’s also a mama to two girls and two high-maintenance dogs, which is probably why she runs. A lot. Even in the Texas heat.

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6 Common Myths Wives of Porn Users Believe

In the era of fake news and the proliferation of the Internet, it can be hard to find the truth. With a push of a button, lies become viral and myths are perpetuated. Let’s get…

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How to Approach Sex After Betrayal

Recently, Jake* contacted me via e-mail. He’d listened to almost every interview we had done and agreed with almost everything we had said, except for this: Porn is not about sex, but about fantasy. After…

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4 Secrets the Porn Industry Hopes You Never Find Out

Porn’s power is largely based on the element of fantasy. Whatever you lust for, you can pretty much find it. All those things you’d thought you’d try or acts you think might satisfy you are…

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4 Things to Remember About Your Husband’s Porn Problem

When dealing with the porn addiction of a spouse, it’s really easy to believe lies that make you feel inadequate. Here are the four most important things to remember about your husband’s porn problem. 1.…

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How to Confess Your Porn Addiction to Your Spouse

Every time I found out about Craig using porn, I either found it on the computer or I caught him in the act. All the while, whenever I asked him about his temptations or actions,…

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Ok, You’ve Stopped Using Porn. Here’s How to Restore Your Marriage.

First, it’s awesome you’ve been kicking your porn addiction! This is really difficult. It’s a daily decision to deny your flesh, pursue God, and engage in the restoration of your marriage. Chances are if your…

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Your Husband’s Porn Addiction: 4 Ways to Get out of the Pit of Depression

My husband and I told the world about how the utter darkness of porn addiction sent him plummeting all the way to the contemplation of suicide. We’ve both professed to feeling like we were drowning,…

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Hope During Your Husband’s Porn Addiction: 3 Critical Reminders

The waves were rough that day. I had my little daughter standing next to me in the calf-deep water. Grannie was sitting in front of me, closer to the shore. We chatted. We laughed. And…

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The Myth of Self-Control

Each time I caught Craig engaging with pornography, I either said or thought things like this: “Why can’t you exercise self-control?” “Why can’t you recognize this is harmful and hurtful and just not do it…