About the author, Jon Snyder

Jon Snyder is the author of the Mighty Man Manual and founder of Mighty Man Ministries. After battling with lust and pornography since childhood and trying everything under the sun to quit, it was a unique encounter with the love of God and its subsequent lessons that began to unravel a lifetime of bondage and bring about true freedom. Jon now sees these same lessons radically set men free world-over.

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5 thoughts on “Fantasies: The Window to Your Wound

  1. Thank you I feel I am been blessed by reading this articale and have now gain knowledge to understand the tactics and attacks of the devil much better and how to overcome it by grace and love of God who is the only One who can provide me with the living water so that I wouldn’t have to get thirsty ever again.

  2. Hello,
    We are raising our nephew for 6.5 years now. He’s 16. We found several porn sites on his phone when he was only 13, in the 7th grade. We had a long talk with him, too the phone away for a few months, then gradually let him have it again, continually questioning his usage and getting a usage report weekly.

    Now, just finishing 10th grade, we have found that his girlfriend either face timed, or insta-grammed her taking a shower for him to watch! We also found porn conversation back and forth between the two over several weeks time.

    I alerted the girl’s mother and she said, “I will talk to her”.

    It’s summer now. our nephew may be home alone several hours here and there.

    My question is: Can this “Covenant Eyes” site block incoming media sites as were mentioned above from streaming into our home computer, his phone, and his school iPad?

    • Hi, Nancy – Covenant Eyes does some things, but not all of the things that it sounds like you need and want. If you have access to his phone to set up Restrictions (it sounds like an iPhone), then we need to set up certain limits. There’s really nothing you can do about iMessages (the texts) without using a service like Bark that can monitor some text activity. Instagram (IG) is another beast – on an iPhone you are severely limited as to what you can control. Direct Messages in IG on an iPhone are completely protected from any service – nothing can see them. So, this is where the rubber meets the road! Can he handle the device? If the answer is “no,” then there will need to be some really direct conversations about what’s acceptable and what isn’t. Is he paying for the service? If not, then take it away and give him a dumb phone if he can’t handle the smartphone. I can show you some. Everything I just said about the iPhone also applies to the school iPad. Does the iPad have any monitoring set up by the school? Maybe something like Go Guardian or Mobicip?

      There’s a lot more we can do for the computer. Covenant Eyes has a much more comprehensive solution for computers. It’s the darn Apple devices that give us (and everyone) fits. I’m open to you sending me an email at chris.mckenna@covenanteyes.com if you would like to explore your options further.


  3. Thank you for this post. If I’d thought along these lines I would have found victory years ago. The Holy Spirit has been showing me exactly those things in my own incomplete repentance . . . that I must repent of where the urges came from in my heart, where Christ had been declared, “not enough.”

    Now I must ask His forgiveness when He shows me where I preferred my own elixirs over Him, then trade my toxic cures for His very self in me. It is indeed quite an awakening.

    Amen! He is ENOUGH, and the only one who is!

  4. Thank you so much for this article – finding the deeper understanding and the root causes are truly so encouraging and exciting to learn as they help and free you in so many areas of your life as well as releasing you from addiction. Truly inspiring and exciting. Thank you!

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