6 thoughts on “Porn and the Elephant

  1. Thank you for the reminders! One of the things we talk about in my 12 step group is “white knuckling.” It doesn’t work most of the time. I spent many hours a day with my addiction so I try to fill my time with “positive” sobriety. It get my mind off of my addiction. I try to not have temptations around (visual temptations). The longer I am in sobriety the more I prove to myself that I can live without this. Some days it is hard but “using” is not the answer. It would just cause guilt and shame like it always did. It never really, really satisfied. I thought it did but never long term– a short fix that resulted in longer shame and guilt.

    I benefit from having a couple of men who I can be totally honest with. They pray for me and we are accountable with each other. I voluntarily hold myself accountable. I am totally honest–hold nothing back because I am only as sick as my secrets. I am enjoying sobriety with porn now for over 10 years. I love Psalm 50:15–Help me Jesus ! (: It is never too late to start.

    Steve in Ohio

    • Wow, Steve! Your testimony is powerful. Don’t be surprised if I reach out to you to elaborate more. We love a great story!

      Warmly,
      Chris

  2. An interesting read. Very insightful. I can also add that reading through these blogs and sharing about them can also be quite a good hobby and way to kill the temptation. Thank you to Covenant Eyes. I’m sincerely grateful.

  3. Hi guys, Amazing write up. But question is how do one find this community that can take your thoughts away from porn/sex???
    A friend has been advising me to become more active with Church, but to be honest, I regularly attend church but I see church folks as religious folks. People don’t want you disturbing them about weaknesses. Folks more interested in testimonies than in weaknesses. Kinda find comfort in one’s soul and pray the day God leads a solution to one. Convenant Eyes really rolling out beautiful articles. But I wonder how long I can hold on.

  4. This is absolutely correct.

    What helped me overcome my porn addiction is the beauty of the music and the iconography of the Orthodox Church.

    In C.S. Lewis’ The Great Divorce, a man on the road from Hell to Heaven is being sidetracked by the lizard of lust. An angel asks him if he can kill the lizard. The man says yes and the angel does so, but afterward, the lizard of lust is resurrected as the horse of desire that the man can now ride to Heaven.

    I think that lust is a distraction from true aesthetic beauty. Thoughts of looking at porn will pass if you contemplate icons and listen to the Gregorian Chant.

    (The Christian YouTuber Jonathan Pageau has been instrumental in setting me on the path toward Him.)

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