About the author, Michael Leahy

Michael Leahy is the Executive Director of BraveHearts, a ministry providing mentoring-centric solutions for men who struggle with habitual sexual sin. He’s the author of five books, including Porn Nation: Conquering America’s #1 Addiction, and is considered a subject matter expert on sexual addiction and recovery. A father of two grown boys and a new grandfather, Michael and his wife, Christine, live in Gainesville, GA.

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  1. What is the best thing an accountability partner can do when their friend loses faith thay they can beat pornography and masturbation? We have a plan to avoid porn, but it is not being followed. I cannot take them captive and keep them from acting out. How do I remain strong and hopeful?

    • Hi, Eleshia – tough, tough situation. Ultimately, if he/she doesn’t want to stop then that really limits your options. You can’t force someone to do anything, at least not for long. If they’re still looking at porn, then they still have the means. Meaning, there’s still a device or a smartphone, or something that allows it to happen. I get so frustrated with people who say they struggle with looking at porn, cry out for help, but they aren’t willing to take the necessary steps to beat it. If I’m a shepherd, and I have a problem with wolves eating my sheep, why would I let the wolves into the gate and sleep with them at night? That’s what a porn addict with a smartphone is doing. They’re complaining about an issue, but not will to keep the wolf out of the pen. In those situations, as an accountability partner, I can’t help. Maybe he/she needs a bit of tough love, like I’ve written here. But, that’s your call. Regarding your question about remaining strong, maybe I can just reassure you that It’s not your job to break his/her habit, nor should you carry too much weight related to their continued choices. I bet God can relate to exactly what you’re going through. Watching His people, daily, who know that to do, continue to choose otherwise. I bet He’d also provide some Divine encouragement through His Spirit, if you turn to Him.

      Regards,
      Chris

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