About the author, Michael Leahy

Michael Leahy is the Executive Director of BraveHearts, a ministry providing mentoring-centric solutions for men who struggle with habitual sexual sin. He’s the author of five books, including Porn Nation: Conquering America’s #1 Addiction, and is considered a subject matter expert on sexual addiction and recovery. A father of two grown boys and a new grandfather, Michael and his wife, Christine, live in Gainesville, GA.

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2 thoughts on “The Best Way to Build Your Accountability Team

  1. Watch Bas Rijksen’s video “Why Christian Accountability Groups Are Awkward, Fail, And Make Us Liars” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ciGFXzKHPZs). Why is it that supposedly grace filled Christians suddenly become works-based sin managers when it comes to porn? It’s almost like porn has become the unpardonable sin, but only when it is the husband who is addicted. Are there actual accountability groups for women addicted to porn or sleazy romance novels? Did any of the millions of Christian women who paid money to see 50 shades or the sequel get told they needed to join accountability groups to keep them from sinning? In fact, what other sin besides porn addiction warrants the accountability group solution? Habitual lying? Over-eating? Slandering your spouse? Gossiping about other church members? Cross-dressing? Homosexual temptations? Even alcoholics get treated better by the secular culture than porn addicts gets treated by Christians.

    • Hello, Mitch – I apologize that your blog comment was lost in my backlog that developed while I was on a recent family vacation. I appreciate different perspectives. Sin management does not cut it! I think Bas brings up some very good points. Being Holy and righteous requires “work” – “effort.” So, there’s a balance that we’re looking for. Matt Chandler (pastor: The Village Church) uses the phrase “grace-driven effort.” The best accountability relationships (not “groups”) are those who are more concerned about my overall holiness than just my misplaced idolization with sex. Yes, the latter is an indicator of my heart condition, but I’ve found the best relationships are concerned with my whole condition. I agree that many Christians have elevated sexual sins. I don’t like that at all. When was the last time someone asked me, “have you been greedy this week?” Never! So, I think there’s some comonality here. I appreciate your post.

      Peace, Chris

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