About the author, Joel Hesch

Joel Hesch is an author and founder of Proven Men Ministries, which is a non-profit organization dedicated to restoring families and helping men break free from porn and sex addiction through a 12-week daily workbook study and accountability. After breaking free from his own 20-year addiction, Joel created “the proven path for sexual integrity.” His vision is to help 1 million people experience victory from strongholds of porn and sex addition.

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  1. This make not make the role call but porn is a double edged sword.I first saw porn at a peep show.I was 19.It was 1972.I was stunned.Raised in Alabama in a traditional southern family i was taught from a young age that girls,women,ladies,were special.They were different.They were incapable of doing things the rest of the world did.They were to be respected,protected,and treated differently.The porn i saw was a young lady giving the now deceased John Holmes head.It ended with his sperm all over her face.How could this be i thought over and over.What could cause this lovely young lady to do this?.Then i thought of the people standing around filming and recording the scene and it further stunned me. I was drawn to it.
    You mean all these women around me could do these things i thought, screen or not they would or could be willing participants?.I was blessed with better than average looks, came from a family that believed in college,was involved in athletics,soon discovered what time in a weight room would do to the body and used it all to recreate the scenes i saw in porn..Girlfriends were first.Then nites out picking up girls even when i had a steady girl.A typical night would be to consume a little porn and to the singles bar i headed.Most of the time i would be doing what i had viewed earlier at some point early the next morning.Maybe sooner.If not then the girlfriend would do as soon as i got to her.In those days porn was tame compared to what is available on the net in 2017.I continued that behavior for 40 years, in a relationship or not,married or not.I could write a book.I sometimes wonder if i was taught wrong or if Playboy and Deep Throat was always there, just kept silent.It changed my views on women.They were objects,not people with love and compassion and burdens.How they looked and what they would do sexually became all that was important.I lost a lot of good ladies along the way as you would imagine.I still fight the urge to look at porn.I give in occasionally.At 61 it does not do what it used too.Nor does the woman i have now do what the 20,30,40 year old women of time gone by did.The stuff out there now is ,in my opinion,amazingly sick stuff.Watch anything you want.Maybe it was always there just hidden better.You dance with the devil,the devil dances back.Man has always perverted whatever it was or is to the utmost.God said it and He oughta know.I am forgiven.In Christ i am a new man.That old man still wants to raise his ugly head at every chance he can get.Thats why its called a battle between the two natures.The sinful vs the spiritual.Porn is everywhere.The ads we look at the sitcoms we watch the routines stand ups use.
    Its a sad state of affairs overall.Even sadder as Hell keeps filling up with people who had no faith or lost it porn still keeps pushing its agenda.A good wife has become hard to find.God gave me one that i did not deserve.Thats humbling.I think that porn in any shape form or fashion is straight from hell.When a man or woman consumes it or is involved in it they have shook hands with the devil himself.

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