About the author, John Doyel

After 26 years in full time ministry, John Doyel resigned his position as Senior Pastor in 2005 because of his sexual brokenness. For the past 10 years he has dedicated himself to helping men recover from sexual sin and return to God. He leads a recovery ministry at Vineyard Columbus called 180 Recover. He also writes daily emails of encouragement to help believers recover from porn or sex addiction, which you can sign up for on his website or by emailing doyel@me.com.

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Porn-Free Church

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With one in three Americans searching for porn at least monthly, our churches can no longer be silent. Find out how real pastors have implemented real solutions for addressing pornography in their congregations and are working to build a culture of accountability.”

3 thoughts on “How to Treat Porn Addiction in the Church

  1. Am glad that at least someone out there is willing to talk about the issue(s) of sexual sin and brokenness from the pulpit on down.

    Sadly, the vast majority of churches are not, and for rather obvious reasons, I believe never will. One could easily make the argument that it’s already too late–part of why I believe persecution in the U.S. is rapidly increasing.

    Truth is, the church is still far too comfortable keeping our sin hidden behind plastic masks, let alone fear of stepping past our various upbringings, etc. and broaching anything even hinting of sexuality…but it’s okay to talk about weddings, pregnancies, babies, etc. everything else surrounding it–that much I know.

    Speaking for myself, though I have pages on my website of personal thoughts about this, anything to do with sex/sexual intimacy has since rapidly become disenchanting. Why?

    1) In part, because I’ve realized it has no practical relevancy for me as a single person without any means of biblical expression. And, in the end, God is concerned with our spiritual state; not satisfying our desire(s) to be married, etc.

    2) I am honestly just fed up and sickened by the world around me shoving the complete misuse and ongoing lies/deceit about sex down my throat. Honestly, that alone is enough to virtually eliminate any libido I once had (even after God graciously rescued me from pornography). I believe in the _biblical theory_ about sexual intimacy, but the numerous ugly realities and hurdles surrounding it now make me want nothing to do with it. Dr. Juli Slattery said it best:

    “Sex has been dragged through the mud so thoroughly that most people can’t even comprehend that it is intended to be something holy.”

    3) The numerous and drastically different perspectives between men and women of, and about, sexuality and each other’s physicality (though understandable) simply do not lend themselves to healthy, vibrant, ongoing sexual intimacy. Don’t ask me why God made us that way, but it’s very real, and very debilitating to intimacy. Check any Christian marriage blog (http://intimacyinmarriage.com or http://hotholyhumorous.blogspot.com) dealing with sex, and you’ll quickly see what I mean.

    4) How do we, as the Body of Christ, *practically* (and both in the church and home) illustrate and herald the beauty of sexual intimacy when it’s obviously a very private thing that we are to safeguard–not expose? It’s very much a catch-22 situation. We want to herald the beauty of biblical sexuality, but can’t because of the limits we have to be careful to safeguard.

  2. Wow John, powerful, just a powerful article!

    I agree with you on everything you stated. I wish I could comment on each of them, but just briefly, you are correct about kids knowing far more than some give them credit. Also, what a tremendous statement about finding dad’s porn stash, yes sir, that’s how I started, but now it’s at the click of a button. I kinda am glad all I had was the playboy magazines and the occasional X-rated movie that was light stuff compared to now. We’re talking 30 “plus” years ago, now anyone can look up the most vile sadistic things and feed their minds for hours in total secret, scary.

    I also like the comment about “country club or hospital”, amen brother! I could not agree with you more, absolutely true. I really believe people would be shocked to see what fellow members are struggling with. It is so easy to look okay on the outside but have sewage inside. I am so happy you chose to step down and deal with the problem, I am so proud of you. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to do that, I tip my hat to you brother.

    I am going to look into your material and please keep up the great work!

  3. thanks for confessing if you had been a better man, you would have dealt with it earlier… this fear of career suicide is effectively silencing the pastors/leaders from addressing this publicly because so many of them are struggling or addicted, this silence is at the expense of the growing number of women and children that are now getting hooked on it… I pray they would be the better man… and trust God because they did the right thing!

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