Overcome Porn: The 40 Day E-mail Challenge

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Find freedom with Overcome Porn: The 40 Day E-mail Challenge, a step-by-step action plan designed to help put porn behind you forever.

55 thoughts on “The Biblical Strategy to Overcome Porn Addiction

  1. Love this…the love of my life and I are looking like we are going to depart ways because he is now dipping himself into adultery along with porn. I am sending this to him in hopes that just one word or phrase from this clip would impact him.

  2. This video is so true and helpful. I have shared it with 3 accountability partners. I see these strategies working in my life in my struggle against the temptation. With God, and his word, accountability with others, and my commitment to stay pure, I have been able to keep from watching porn for over 3 1/2 years.

  3. When I was discovered by my wife four years ago I dropped pornography immediately and completely. My involvement in pornography since then has been zero. Seeing the destructive impact on my wife, the one I love most in life, stopped me dead in my tracks. I’m done with porn and will not return. Meanwhile she will struggle for the rest of her life.

    • My husband looked at porn for almost a year a few times a month and hasn’t looked at anything for a year now. My insecurity, pain and overwhelming sadness hasn’t changed though. No matter how many times he apologizes and says lovely compliments my pain doesn’t decrease and I cry so much. Any suggestions??

    • Many, many women in your situation will meet the clinical criteria for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). This is a very common pattern, that even when the husband does well in recovery, that women do not get the help they need. Clearly you’re still in a lot of distress, so it’s time to break that pattern and find help just for you. Find a counselor who can help you process your emotions and build healthy boundaries. Find a group in your area to help you process. And check out the online resources at Bloom. Make sure you’re getting the help you need for healing. Peace, Kay

  4. Great strategy. Really going your instructions quite helpful. Appreciated it. Would be interested in receiving news about new app. Great idea.

  5. Hi, I have found lots of help when I “run from” girls bending over and revealing a lot…
    I have found lots of help in “running to” prayer, confession and Adoration
    I have also found lots of help in “running with” by talking to my own community members (as I am part of the Neocatechumenal way). I have to say that when I ask for help, I am not alone and the struggles reduces itself already just by letting it out.
    I also have to say that I love your material, your articles and I use Covenant Eyes. I am in the process of advertising it to all members of our community here in Canada. If it goes through, you’ll get lots of customers over here!

  6. Luke. Thanks for this. Great point about the emptiness that can result from abstaining from porn if it’s not replaced. I’m learning to do so, and watching your video is the first way in which I pursued righteousness, faith, love, and peace.

  7. Hi luke. I use to be so in donbage to drink drugs gambling and all that brings in that life. Hundreds of habits at best. With the power of Holy Spirit broke them. 14 years later still can’t move porn out completely . I was abused sexually as child believe this brought these things into me. I love My life And believe am Bleessed to know and love Jesus Christ. I am so so different now in new man. Just this porn stuff needs sorting once and for all. Thank you for loving God to serve others. Blessed is you Luke to know these truths. Kev

  8. When will app be available for android devices? GOD has blessed me with a great accountability partner of several years. A major part of my battle with the enemy.

  9. Yes, Covenant Eyes has been a help along with the “Every Man’s Battle” book from Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker as part of the Celebrate Recovery process. All of these items together have allowed me to build the walls around my life per what you were describing Luke in this video. Thank you for the encouragement.

  10. Luke, thanks for the challenge–40 days ! It started with day one and then two and then 30 to prove to myself that I would not die without lust and masturbation. I did not think consciously that I could not survive without it but fantasy and masturbation was my way of coping with life from my teen years on. I had to break the cycle. I needed a recovery group where we were able to talk about the nuts and bolts of our daily addiction to porn and sexual sins of all kinds. I was accepted, did not feel like a loser and we also talked about things like self hatred, resentment, and many other reasons why we became addicts. Much of our individual and group pains came out and brought much short and long term healing. My one year anniversary turned into 2 and now over 8 years of freedom from porn and masturbation and fantasy. I give honor to my LORD and Savior Jesus Christ but he used men of different faiths and some who did not believe in a Higher Power to help me. Thanks for your efforts. Steve ll Cor Chapter 1–He “comforts” us so we can comfort others.

  11. I have seen it bear fruit in the aspect of my life where i tried to skip a season before, from being in college to working and completely abandoning my future without my parent’s consent, even running away from home to chase the ‘fabulous me in money and fame. It did not start with the run from but in run with-run to then run from but i am happy and at peace with the results, i am now back to my current season with a safer, more secured future and present life in Christ ? I am glad i saw this video, it is really helpful for this struggle in pornography as a woman.

    • I’m glad women as well as men have found these principles helpful. There’s far more that unites us as Christians in our redemptive experiences than divides us. Thanks for the comment, Precious.

  12. I am truly blessed by this video Mr. Gilkerson. The most powerful strategy that has helped me bear fruit in my life is the “Run With” strategy where it talks about calling on the Lord with a pure heart, and confessing, praying , and encouraging one another to rely on Christ and not just fall into our weaknesses of sin. I truly believe that doing this is will always truly help me to change and have a pure heart towards God. All I want to do is to please God in all of my life and not my own sinful natures.

    • Thanks so much for posting this video. I haven’t struggled with porn, but lust has been a challenge at times. One of the ways that I have found helpful to flee and resist temptation is to pray for someone else who is being tempted. That soon seems to break the power of the temptation. Another option that has been a blessing is to thank God the victory that He has provided and to look for the way of escape that He has promised and provided.

  13. Great ideas. One man told me that whenever he was tempted to lust, he would start humming or singing “My Jesus I love thee”. If you truly do love Him, then there is no way you can continue to lust while humming or singing that song. The trick is to train yourself to start singing it when tempted. Thanks for the good work you are doing to help so many people. Keep up the good work.

  14. Fleeing the “near occasion” of sin is an excellent stategy-nipping temptation in the bud before it comes to fruition is the way to go!

  15. Hi Luke

    Thanks for the video, I seem to do better with watching speakers. I don’t have a smart phone because of the temptation of looking at porn. I would like to get the emails though. I had gone several months (111 days) clean and messed up a few weeks ago. It seems the strength I had, which was amazing, has now been destroyed. I seem to do better with starting points (like New Years day, first days of the week, special times etc…) I want New Years day to be the turning point for me and would like to use this 40 day challenge to help me. I have to say that I when I start a new habit, like treadmill exercise, I do well. Before I tripped up, I had not been on the treadmill a few weeks. Another is Bible studies…I am a real Bible student and tend to make my lunch break at work a study time when I come home for lunch. I then follow-up with other biblical related things I study on when I come home at the end of the day. These really are areas that strengthen me even more. I have the ability to listen to bible studies through MP3’s at work….again, this really helps. “But”, I find when I give in to a temptation, I really get down in the gutter and have prolong times of struggling until I once again have that special starting point. Things that seem to trigger my weaknesses are financial strains, health issues…I guess things that bring a great deal of anxiety, these are danger zones for me. It may sound funny to those reading this, but I even journal my Christian walk including this battle. I have been keeping a journal since the latter 90’s. I have decided to have my accountability partner tighten up my filter and I’m going to add another person. I am not strong enough to have other devices that are internet capable. I want so badly to win over this and feel that if I can just go a certain distance these patterns can be wiped clean and my spiritual man can be fed to the point that the fleshly one will die of starvation. I have felt this strength and was even tempted several times and walked away as if I had never struggled with it before…it was an amazing feeling and I thanked The Lord for it. Anyhow, thanks for the opportunity to share this with you and any reader that can relate.

  16. Luke: In your video, we call what you propose, the “2-2-22” battle strategy in Battle Plan Ministries; and we’ve found it to be an essential part of Christian men developing their own personalized and WRITTEN battle plans in their pursuits to become effective warriors in the spiritual warfare involved in walking free from porn. But I’ve never heard this strategy taught any clearer or more directly. And we at Battle Plan Ministries hope to use the new APP and your teaching in our ministry. Thanks for all you do in this anti-XXX warfare. … Bill

    • I wasn’t aware of your “2-2-22” strategy. That verse must be pretty popular for men and women overcoming porn problems—which makes sense. Thanks so much for the encouraging remarks!

  17. I have seen the “run to” strategy bear fruit in my life when I pray to God at my room when I am at home or when I am at church and I ask Him to forgive me and help me repent of all my sexual sins with all my heart, occasionally fasting and shedding tears because of how I feel for the things I have done wrong. I have done my best to stop looking at pornography over the last year, but I have felt that there have been times that it has been hard for me to physically stop myself from going to a website that may have pornographic material, or visually stop myself from looking at a pornographic image or video that I did not mean to look at but which happened to show up on my tablet or on TV, or even stop myself mentally from thinking about a pornographic image or video that I have seen in the past, if it comes to my mind randomly. For these reasons, it has been hard for me to stop viewing pornography, considering I became addicted to it at one point in my life. For now, I have not viewed pornography for a few days, and I do not want to view it anymore, if I can help it, because I know it will not only harm me but also those people who surround me in the long run, if I continue viewing it. For now, I have faith in God the Lord that He has forgiven me of all my sins, including my sexual sins, and that He will set me free from porn and masturbation addiction. Thanks for the article. I will do what I can to apply the things mentioned in this video to my life to help me in the struggle against lust and pornography.

    • Thanks, Angel.

      Your comment about asking God to forgive you got me thinking about a recent article we published here you might want to read. It’s called “Are You Repenting the Wrong Way?

      A lot of your struggles sound like the need for more “run from” strategies: find ways to make it hard for you to access porn. As the saying goes, when you’re at your best, plan for your worse. In those moments when you have a clear head, what stop-gaps can you put in place to make accessing porn really difficult?

    • Hi Luke, thanks for the link to the other article. I read it, and I believe I have repented the right way. Well, some things I have done in the past, and more so recently, which I have found really helpful in keeping me from accessing porn is become more educated in the topics of pornography, sex addiction, sex trafficking, and masturbation whenever I have felt tempted to look at pornography online or visit a pornographic website. For example, reading blogs in Christian websites and other anti-porn websites such as Covenant Eyes that address these topics, and occasionally making donations to some of these websites has been a significantly helpful way for me to keep myself from looking at pornography online.

  18. Please. How do I get involved in the 40 day challenge. I don’t have a don’t have the type of mobile device that I could put an app on. How else can I get involved?

    • Bruce, go ahead and fill out the form to be notified. We’re looking into the interest level for reviving our e-mail challenge, and by filling out the form we’ll make sure to let you know what we decide.

  19. hi i would love to be part of your email challenge…i have been struggle alot between what i am watching and what i know is the right thing to do…please let me know when it is ready…eager for a change in my life…

    • We are so glad your brother made the recommendation! There is a lot of great content here, so please read and be inspired.

      Chris
      -Covenant Eyes

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