About the author, Matt Fradd

Matt Fradd is the author of Delivered: True Stories of Men and Woman Who Turned from Porn to Purity. After experiencing a profound conversion at World Youth Day in Rome in 2000, Matt has worked through full-time lay ministry in Australia, Ireland, Canada, and Texas. He has served as an apologist for Catholic Answers and has traveled all over the world, speaking to tens of thousands of teens and young adults. He and his wife Cameron have four children and live in North Georgia.

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The Porn Circuit

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Science shows us why porn is highly addictive. Learn how our neurochemistry is easily hijacked by porn to create compulsive behaviors, and discover how the brain can be rewired to escape porn's allure.

10 thoughts on “Porn and Sexual Violence: 10 Facts from the Experts

    • I was married for thirty three years and my husband walked out and left me and our ten year old child. Six months befor that he was very violent with me and done things during our sex that I could believe and caused ripping in my annul area. I almost passed out after he did it because I never seen it coming and I told him to stop but he didn’t he also slapped me so hard I almost cried. I can’t believe what my life has become with the sexual and emotional abuse of what he has become. Nobody understands what I’ve went threw nor does anyone offer support. He has made my life very hard to deal with and I don’t mention anything because he is so charming that nobody believes me anyway. I hope I can get support for me and my child so that he doesn’t grow up like him. Thank you. Sharon

    • Sharon, I am so, so sorry. It sounds to me like you should be eligible for support through survivor services like a Family Advocacy Program,a Children’s Advocacy Center, or a battered women’s shelter. Often, individual cities will have a Family of Childrens’ Advocacy Center. Womens’ shelters often offer groups for victims of abuse, even if you don’t live at the shelter; or they can refer you to groups in your area. You’ll have to check in your community and see what resources are available, but there should be services available to you and to your child as well. Very often those are available at low cost (income based) or they are offered for free through non-profits.

      Those kinds of programs are set up to provide support in exactly the kind of situation you’re describing. While others may not understand that dynamic of the charming abuser, battered womens’ groups will completely get it. That is exactly how abusers present themselves to the world, and it’s exactly why they can get away with the terrible things that they do, over and over again.

      I would encourage you to check in your community, and find those resources that are available to families that have suffered abuse. Blessings, Kay

  1. We need to get real on this subject. Women are very violent creatures. They have aborted 58 MILLION babies. That is killing to make one’s life better. That is all it amounts to really. Killing for convenience.

    Then when you look at domestic violence, upwards of 40% of men experience it. Further, while injury was more likely when violence was perpetrated by men, in relationships that featured reciprocal violence men were injured more often (25 percent of the time) than women (20 percent of the time).

    Let’s just stop with they hypocrisy and constant tears for women. The reality is they are aggressive, they kill, and the only reason why they do not do as much damage is they are the weaker sex. Wonder why things do not ever get better? We never hold women accountable for their actions. Never.

    Also, your statistics are very biased. When you go to shelters only for women, of course it is going to appear that women are constantly victims. So just stop it with your nonsense and do some real research and real reporting.

    • Since a number of these studies involved both men and women, I fail to see why we aren’t “getting real,” as you call it.

      What you call “biased” we call “staying on subject.” Are women guilty of violence? Sure. But we’re focusing on the studies that connect porn to violence, not covering every other kind of violence in the world.

  2. By the way, I know you have a vendetta against porn, but you are really fighting a losing battle. Here is the reality that you repeatedly fail to address: women are the ones doing it all the time — they push sex. As the weaker sex, they use their beauty to manipulate. Translation: they use sex to manipulate.

    When you start counting the individual women in porn, escorting, stripping, web camming, modeling, massaging, doing homemade porn, sexting, phone sex operations, etc —– you see the clear numbers: there are HUNDREDS of millions of women using sex to get the things they want. From rent money to clothes to just a comfortable luxury filled life.

    So when you want to realistically discuss the subject and give comments such as mine equal billing, let me know because that is when real change will happen. Until then, your words will fall on deaf ears because people see the hypocrisy of it all. When Kim Kardashian can make 50 million dollars because she did a sex tape —- well people see the hypocrisy and see women for what they really are. Also, why do you go against the bible on this? Do you not see the same type of women in the bible? Do you think they went away? Has the PC world made you forget these parts of the bible? Hate to tell you — those women never went away. They are alive and well.

    • Yes women use sex to manipulate but it takes two to tango. If men would stop letting women play that game…well you do the math.

    • We regularly write about that angle here, so I’m not sure how we’re neglecting that side of things—but I certainly wouldn’t phrase it the way you do. The fact that men are willing to be so enslaved to their sexual desires, willing to throw gobs of money at it, is the reason why there is a demand commercial sex. No demand, there would be be very little supply.

  3. What you call a vendetta against porn, the Bible would call a struggle for purity. We are told we will struggle with sin our entire lives – so in essence, “stop being baised”, life is a losing battle. Does that mean we stop fighting? A struggle to overcome porn starts in many places. CE doesn’t claim to stop porn, they want to liberate as many men and women from its grasp as possible. Sin will always be amongst us. I appreciate that you took the time to share your thoughts, but please help us be constructive and winsome in presenting the message. From my point of view, your comment was not constructive or helpful.

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